By Dan

February 27, 2009 8:50 AM | Link to this

@WD

That’s one of the drawbacks to being a “golddigger” - the business cycle.

While business is good [her] hightened attractiveness is a boon. When the cycle is in a downturn, the attractiveness is still there (though aging), but not as profitable.

And like the uptick shall come (hopefully) [her] looks will have waned in the interim, making room for a whole new flock of goldiggers to replace [her] in the new cycle.

I love economics!

By NYCUTIE-www.Atlantasfinest.yuku.com

February 27, 2009 8:54 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All :) My relationship is GREAT!! The recession hasn’t affected us at all.. I am a very practical woman so I enjoy whatever my man has planned for us! Money isn’t an issue with us! We enjoy a $30 date as much as a $300 date :) Happy Friday

By Sassy Me

February 27, 2009 9:04 AM | Link to this

HAPPY FRIDAY

How do you think the recession will impact your own dating experiences?

Are you spying on me Wise b/c just last night a friend wanted to take me to TGI Friday’s using a buy one entre get one entre free coupon. I’m like what the hey it can’t hurt and it’s the thought that counts. So anyhoo, we got there and the place was he.ll-a-packed and the wait was about an hour. As it turns out, a whole lot of people also had those coupons and to make it worse they expire tomorrow. All I could do was laugh and take it in stride. We simply went next door to Carraba’s and had a fab meal.

Are you looking into dating online more?

I don’t know about that one b/c some people purposefully false represent themselves online and that’s water I’ve yet to tread.

By Bit-O-Hunny

February 27, 2009 9:19 AM | Link to this

TGIF Good People!!The recession has certainly caused me to think more economical but I can’t say that I’ve seen much change in my relationship. My guy and I are equally pretty casual when it comes to dating so we don’t have many extravagant nights out.

Things that are going to require a budget we plan for in advance. So far, it’s working. Weekends with dinner and a movie and the like aren’t wallet breakers so we’re cool. PlayDate (which is Saturday) is a great place for a date. It’s fun and inexpensive.

By Leggs

February 27, 2009 9:29 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone!

SassyMe, I’m going on a lunch date today to Ruby Tuesday’s w/a coupon (buy one entree get the other free). I asked him out to lunch!

By Bit-O-Hunny

February 27, 2009 9:33 AM | Link to this

Question is anyone embarrased to use a BOGO coupon?

By NYCUTIE-www.Atlantasfinest.yuku.com

February 27, 2009 9:34 AM | Link to this

I am going to start buying the Sunday paper again!! Leggs, you go girl!!!

By Leggs

February 27, 2009 9:36 AM | Link to this

HAAAAAAAAAAAA! Thanks NYCutie.

To answer your question BitO, NOPE!

By Cemeeli

February 27, 2009 9:37 AM | Link to this

Morning! Happy Friday!

It is evident that the recession hittin the kids! I got this email from the coach. The kids’ extra curricular activities/sport leagues getting hit too!

from the coach

Re: Hello Parents, Coaches, Volunteers and Friends: Saturday, March 7, 2009 is our last basketball game. We will have an awards ceremony at the conclusion of all games. Trophies, Awards and Chick-Filet Gift cards will be given to each participant. We thank you all for your support in our programs. Thanks once and again for you continued support. Coach K And that post bourgeois’ banquet. The league would spend a lil $$change$$ (entertainment, gifts, and catering from nice restaurants) for a nice bourgeois banquet, prior to the recession.

“Thangs gon’ change round here!”

By Cemeeli

February 27, 2009 9:39 AM | Link to this

Mytwocents A tribune to you and history, “Cee’s Style” on this rainy Friday.

Shorty, i’m there for you anytime you need me. For real girl, it’s me in your world, believe me. Nuttin make a man feel better than a woman, queen with a crown that be down for whatever. There are few things that’s forever, my lady. We can make war or make babies. Back when I was nothing you made a brother feel like he was something. That’s why I’m with you to this day boo no frontin. Even when the skies were gray, you would rub me on my back and say “Baby it’ll be okay”. Now that’s real to a brother like me baby, never ever give my coot away and keep it tight aight? And I’ma walk these dogs so we can live, in a fat azz crib with thousands of kids, word life you don’t need a ring to be my wife. Just be there for me and I’ma make sure we, be livin in the effin lap of luxury. I’m realizing that you didn’t have to funk wit me, but you did, now I’m going all out kid and I got mad love to give, you my nig.

…umm…

By AmazonRed

February 27, 2009 9:42 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday!!!

Well, I recently went on a date with a guy who is laid off from his marketing job, so he’s taken to working at a coffee house in the interim. He’s rented his house (cuz he can’t sell it for profit in this market) and moved into an apartment with a roommate. I’ve long said that if you don’t have a job, you shouldn’t date, but I guess having an interim job counts. LOL.

Anyway, I was curious to see how his recent financial situation was going to influence our date. He picked a modest restaurant in Virginia-Highlands that I had never been to before. When I passed on ordering an alcoholic beverage, he encouraged me to order whatever I liked. Since dinner went well, he asked if I’d like to join him at a lounge spot near by where he paid for my parking and drinks there as well. Basically, he didn’t flinch the entire time on the date, though I was respectful of his pocket book. He also mentioned concerts and things in the future he wants to attend.

All that to say, I think folks are being more cost conscious, but I don’t think the economy is getting in the way of folks seeking love.

By Tazzee

February 27, 2009 9:44 AM | Link to this

Morning Folks!

B-O-H No, I’ll use a BOGO or any other coupon. I love coupons.

As far as the recession affecting my dating; I’ve always been a fairly frugal person so nothing’s changed for me. One guy jokingly said I was a cheap date after we had breakfast Sunday. I’m thinking he needs to take me some place more expensive next time, LOL.

The recession isn’t the reason I decided to try online dating again either.

The recession is the reason why I’m pinching a few more pennies, and driving the car that takes regular gas instead of the one that takes premium. I also like to use the recession when it’s convenient for me - like when friends want to do something I think is expensive…

Happy Friday all! NFL free agency is on and poppin!

By AmazonRed

February 27, 2009 9:44 AM | Link to this

I’m a little sad Tom Brady went and married that model. He was my white boy crush. Him and Paul Walker from the Fast and the Furious. Oh and Josh Duhammel who went and married that hot mess Fergie. LOL

By Sassy Me

February 27, 2009 9:46 AM | Link to this

Question is anyone embarrased to use a BOGO coupon?

Bit No I’m not…why be embarrased to save money? I’m so proud or bourgeois that I can’t enjoy a coupon during the most bleak economic downturn since the Great Depresson.

By Raqi

February 27, 2009 9:49 AM | Link to this

WiseDiva it’s all about solace. One of the human frailties is we have a subconscious need for comfort and consolation in times of concern. If you (not you, but you know what I am saying) actually own anything and have something to lose if the economy does not recover you are or should be presently concerned. That concern warrants consolation. Sharing. Feel good.

Another thing also, being in a relationship is much cheaper than big balling. Having your mate/steady/main-man pay for a dinner with a 2-for-1 is just him being economical and smart. Having your new playa-playa big baller recent hook-up pull out the 2fer is him being a cheaparse.

By M'Karyl

February 27, 2009 9:51 AM | Link to this

Awrighty now…go @Leggs…sho’ you right and why not???…that is more $$$ for another date…lol.

*@NYCutie

Do not forget the Creative Loafing…is it still around?…there are discount coupons in there too.

@Sassy

Now that was a plan…less for food, more for drinks…lol.

I do not see anything wrong with doing practical things like taking advantage of discoutns coupons for meals…or any other inexpensive outing…expecially if I am going to have a good time.

When FF came up from Raleigh, he was expected a more high end evening for dinner…which I did not know on the front end, but he wanted me to make the decision about where we would go eat…well, I decided to go to this fab Mexican restaurant nearby…passed it a zillion times, never went in to eat…the food wa authentic and vry reasonable priced…we had dinner, 3 rounds of grnade margaritas and dessert fot about $60…not a bad deal for two…but we had a blast…great conversation, good humor, lots of common interest to talk about…hey-ale, next time I will be looking for their coupons…lol.

By NYCUTIE-www.Atlantasfinest.yuku.com

February 27, 2009 9:52 AM | Link to this

I love COUPONS TOO!!! I am a frugal mofo!!

By Leggs

February 27, 2009 9:53 AM | Link to this

Tazzee, I too am a frugal person. I don’t waste much (especially water and electrcity). As long as you don’t take me to McDonald’s, KFC, Checkers, Pizza Hut or Cee Cee’s (not your house Cee (lol)), or any other fast food joint, I’m down with other food establishments on a dime!

By Tazzee

February 27, 2009 9:54 AM | Link to this

LOL AmRed I’ve never used ‘pocket book’ when referring to a man. I’m glad you gave that guy a chance, it seems like you had a nice time.

Personally I think the current state of economy warrants easing up on some of the ‘gainfully employed’ rules folks may have. The fact that this guy is not to proud to work in a coffee house and made adjustments to his lifestyle is admirable.

By M.

February 27, 2009 9:56 AM | Link to this

So how can recession be good for dating?

I think the recession can be good for dating for both parties. For women, it should be a good lesson for them on appreciation and reciprocation. I think these times will hopefully help women to not take small things in dating for granted. A perfect example is dinner. I think the days are gone when women can just go out with guys for dinner even when they really are not interested. I think this should help women appreciate the fact that a guy is even asking you out. You must ask yourself, what makes me special from any other female around 285? Also, guys can eat by themselves, so your company or lack of is not the end of the world. I am not saying that women should devalue themselves or feel like they are not worth dinner, but there are alot of single women here so if he is asking you out, reciprocate!

For men, I think this will help the guys to be more selective who they spend their resources on and with. I think guys are talking on the phone longer and getting to know girls more before asking them out. I also think guys are trying to calculate their risk with a woman earlier so they can prevent any pointless spending with someone in a situation that is going nowhere.

Also, overall, I think the recession is a good Test for dating. For women, you can see who really is interested in you, who will find a way to get to know you and who is not and for guy’s, you can see who is really down for you and who is not.

By AmazonRed

February 27, 2009 9:57 AM | Link to this

Tazzee - Ha! My bad, I meant “pocket.” Or heck, “wallet.” LOL.

Leggs, have fun on your date.

As for the 2 for 1 coupons. Still a little tacky to break em out when you don’t really know the person. But I understand. And once you DO know the person, using them is fine and encouraged!

By Dan

February 27, 2009 9:58 AM | Link to this

@Raqi

As someone familiar with economics in general the demography of the A as well allow me to enlighten you on a few things:

1) the Atlanta MSA has the worst personal savings rate in the country;

2) the Atlanta MSA personal debt burden is twice that of any in the SE United States;

To those (and other) ends, Ms. Raqi, being a cheaparse has more to do with long term goals that the more immediate returns of dating.

As ARed cited in her testimonial, dude likely had that entire evening budgeted and will adjust for any cost overruns. So, as has been stated, a “good date” can be had while remaining economically cognizant.

these statistics are based on personal income/consumption statistics alone. Disclaimer: my citation is not an indictment of any person or behavior

By M.

February 27, 2009 10:01 AM | Link to this

So how can recession be good for dating?

I think the recession can be good for dating for both parties. For women, it should be a good lesson for them on appreciation and reciprocation. I think these times will hopefully help women to not take small things in dating for granted. A perfect example is dinner. I think the days are gone when women can just go out with guys for dinner even when they really are not interested. I think this should help women appreciate the fact that a guy is even asking you out. You must ask yourself, what makes me special from any other female around 285? Also, guys can eat by themselves, so your company or lack of is not the end of the world. I am not saying that women should devalue themselves or feel like they are not worth dinner, but there are alot of single women here so if he is asking you out, reciprocate!

For men, I think this will help the guys to be more selective who they spend their resources on and with. I think guys are talking on the phone longer and getting to know girls more before asking them out. I also think guys are trying to calculate their risk with a woman earlier so they can prevent any pointless spending with someone in a situation that is going nowhere.

Also, overall, I think the recession is a good Test for dating. For women, you can see who really is interested in you, who will find a way to get to know you and who is not and for guy’s, you can see who is really down for you and who is not.

By NYCUTIE-www.Atlantasfinest.yuku.com

February 27, 2009 10:01 AM | Link to this

Thx M’Karyl!! Had no idea!

By Bit-O-Hunny

February 27, 2009 10:02 AM | Link to this

I was just curious b/c I’m like does it really matter? Money saved is $$ that can go towards something else. I was hoping that nobody was above a good ole coupon! I mean, I know I’m not above it and really ain’t that far removed from having to…LOL

By Sassy Me

February 27, 2009 10:03 AM | Link to this

Mornin’ MELO…..It’s raining :-)

By NYCUTIE-www.Atlantasfinest.yuku.com

February 27, 2009 10:04 AM | Link to this

People are CRAZY!! http://www.foxnews.com/politics/first100days/2009/02/27/chicago-man-arrested-allegedly-targeting-obama-hiv-infected-blood/

My bad for going off the topic BUT…

By Raqi

February 27, 2009 10:05 AM | Link to this

I think the days are gone when women can just go out with guys for dinner even when they really are not interested

M I think it’s the opposite. There will be more people out there trying to get meals and entertainment one someone else’s dollar. They will see it as a opportunity to save more money for themselves.

Before this is all over it’s going to be a dog-eat-dog world. That’s why folks need to get with someone that they know is true to them and will stick by their side now. When the going gets tough people are going leech on whomever they can.

By THE MELO

February 27, 2009 10:08 AM | Link to this

Good morning!!

The recession is definately better for playas!!! On the pretense of wanting to save money,u’ll decide to cook dinner for the date and invite her to ur home.Make dinner,order her fav wine and make a fire and snuggle on the couch. The rest,lets live it to the imagination coz its proly going down!!! U know what I mean…..

I wish I cld do that,fck it!!!

By Leggs

February 27, 2009 10:10 AM | Link to this

Thanks ARed, pretty sure we’ll have a good time. For one thing, we’re always bouncing jokes off one another so already know there will be a lot of laughing!

By mytwocents

February 27, 2009 10:11 AM | Link to this

Who is just now figuring out where the focus should be? Next discovery will be outer shell cain’t fully dictate the inner fillin.

Coupons and Discounts, Matching Funds are all lovely. Like I think the Buckhead Life Group still has their buy a Gift Card get an add’l 15-20% on it. And Spa Sydell does the same from time to time.

Cee Style? I reject that. Not when you thought it was Biggie. Memba that? Don’t know why you n zulu-hudu think my memory faulty!

The D Take off that blazer with the patches on the elbow, put down that pointer and step away from the d@mn chalk board. It’s Friday…no philosophical ruminations for you.

By AmazonRed

February 27, 2009 10:11 AM | Link to this

I wish I cld do that,fck it!!!

eyeroll at melo

By M.

February 27, 2009 10:12 AM | Link to this

@Raqi

Raqi, I see what you mean, but my point was that guys will hopefully screen better in the beginning before they get to the point of being taken for a ride by someone that is not interested instead of meeting someone tonight and going to dinner sunday. Just a thought…

By M'Karyl

February 27, 2009 10:18 AM | Link to this

@NYC Yepper…the CL always has coupons for some discount…and some nice places too…ethnic food restaurants, brunch places…lots of good stuff…I still think the wine tasting as Fuego’s is a good deal too…at happy hour with the $1 tapas, about four wines to taste (grouped by reds or whites)…nice fun…Chequer’s all you can eat brunch is the bomb for the money…lots of great selections…seafood, belgian waffles, omelets made to order…all non-alcholic drinks have free refills…pastries…yumlish.

By i'm swiss

February 27, 2009 10:19 AM | Link to this

“What are you doing to weather the times?”

Guess I’ll go back to man-ho-ing.

By Beautiful

February 27, 2009 10:20 AM | Link to this

it’s friday! whoo hoo. boh i don’t use coupons, i search the papers every week for sales. love it.

ray and i have been trying to meet up for a minute now. he’s a teacher. because of the recession and him being threatened with layoffs, he had to get a second job which takes a lot of our time. sniff

i’m very compassionate with him about his situation and he really appreicates me understanding that he has to do what he has to do.

hi ladies!

By Raqi

February 27, 2009 10:23 AM | Link to this

M I agree but some will lose during get to know the true you process. We all know it’s the nature of the beast. But I made my statement the way I did because just this morning I heard a third person that was leaving my office say “let me go see who I can get to buy me lunch today”. Two were women and the one this morning was a man.

LOL All the nice guys and super nerds are going to become really popular around here.

By THE MELO

February 27, 2009 10:24 AM | Link to this

Hey Sassy! Rain is my fav type of weather,bad thing tho,i have to be up and up tmrw morning.Shsssttt!!

By Dan

February 27, 2009 10:25 AM | Link to this

@My2

My bad.

I was attempting to put into perspective the difference between a cultural/social definition of cheap; and the economic practice of the popular term right now “living within one’s means”.

Didn’t mean to be weighty….

By M.

February 27, 2009 10:30 AM | Link to this

@Raqi

LOL that is crazy. So what happens when they go out to lunch today and the waiter/waitress goes is this check seperate or together and he goes seperate. The look on her face……priceless…That will definately ruin her friday!

By AmazonRed

February 27, 2009 10:30 AM | Link to this

The D Take off that blazer with the patches on the elbow, put down that pointer and step away from the d@mn chalk board. It’s Friday…no philosophical ruminations for you.

mytwocents, this killed me so softly. But…word. lol

By kimmie

February 27, 2009 10:31 AM | Link to this

Morning Blog/Happy Rainy Friday!

Actually yesterday on Tom Joyner there was a discussion on this. A listener wrote in that she & her fiance were planning on actually getting married this year & starting a family. He lost is job, so their plans are on hold. She said while she knows his job loss was not his fault, she said she looks at him a little different now and has lost some respect for him!! Can you believe that?! She didn’t say anything about him being lazy and not trying to look for another job, so she can’t blame it on that. Dude should count his lucky stars because this shows what she is all about!

Raqi - I agree it is easier to be already in a relationship during these times, versus trying to establish something new and make a good impression. SO and I are kinda homebodies anyway due to the kids and he has a wonderful home theatre setup. A lot of our outings are family get-togethers where everyone brings something. When we do something alone like a nice concert, we already budget for that. We are going to the mountains with 2 other couples, so the cost is minimum and since he paid for my Xmas trip to FL with his family, I am covering the mountain trip. We both are individually cutting back where we can.

Amred While I agree with you that if you don’t have a job, you really should not be out trying to meet new folks to date, few handle the situation with the finesse your friend did. Sounds like he’s a keeper. And you were respectful of his wallet too, like I would be(and am). 2 guys I dated in the past lost their jobs soon after we started dating. I tried to be as sensitive to their situations as I could without making them feel bad, neither handled it well. They got mean and nasty. Showed me early on how they handled adversity. See I don’t have a problem taking the bus & living on ramen noodles if I have to. I have survival skills. These dudes didn’t.

By Cemeeli

February 27, 2009 10:32 AM | Link to this

mytwo It’s Black History Month, why you gota go an put a sistah on blast? dang That’ cold.

I’m all in upstate mode and you just crushed it ma!

thumb suck

By Cemeeli

February 27, 2009 10:33 AM | Link to this

Who’s going on a date tonight?

Leggs and Tazzee?

Which one?

By M.

February 27, 2009 10:34 AM | Link to this

@Raqi

LOL that is crazy. So what happens when they go out to lunch today and the waiter/waitress goes is this check seperate or together and he goes seperate. The look on her face……priceless…That will definately ruin her friday!

By The Truth

February 27, 2009 10:37 AM | Link to this

Morning folks. This is day one of life without my dogs. I’m still waiting for them to come upstairs and sit by the bed til I get up.

This recession will be good for long term reltaionships because we will once again be forced to concentrate on core needs. During prosperous times our minds are occupied with Mr/Mrs McDreamy Longbucks but now we must get back to the basics. A fundamentally solid mate with extremely perverted tendencies and a knack for savings is the right recipe.

Dan the whole country has a terrible savings rate, to include the government. Thats one reason we’re in the mess we’re in. I would think that most folks max out their 401k and do what they can but unless you’re extremely disciplined its hard., especially if you have a family. The government taxing the hell out of you and then life itself popping up. No matter how much savings you have it only takes one injury, layoff, mishap to reset you back to zero.

Ared good looking out for old boy.

By mytwocents

February 27, 2009 10:37 AM | Link to this

Dan What I’m requesting is tom foolery of you. It’s been a helluva week. Perhaps later on you’ll be so kind as to extend your ‘Deese’ with cheese to a deserving candidate… Not to myself of course, cuz I don’t need a snack, but…

Angie Hey girl. Feel like gettin into some foolishness? Mytwo needs your help. Now don’t get too controversial, but pls- make some questionable enough comment that the hair flippin n what not shall commence.

Lurkers A-Z Surely there are some crazy @zz burning questions. Sista Gurl, Church Lady, anybody out there?

By Leggs

February 27, 2009 10:41 AM | Link to this

WTH, she looks at him differently and has lost some respect. WHAT! I’m in pain just reading that bs. HE doesn’t need to marry her. Thank goodness he’s witnessing the “bad” before the good even had a chance to show it’s pretty head. OMGoodness!

I’m going on a lunch date Cee.

By THE MELO

February 27, 2009 10:41 AM | Link to this

Didn’t mean to be weighty

Dang maaan Dan,u kill the mood with ur unwarranted and inaprpriate academic analysis!!! How u gonna start talking about the anatomy of the vagina and cervix and the disign of the fallopian tubes when the woman is lying on the bed,waiting for ur probing?? Good grief,im p** off.fck it…!!!

By M'Karyl

February 27, 2009 10:43 AM | Link to this

I think that this entire economic crisis is making ppl, in general, take a second look at their spending habits and customs…for those of us who have always be frugal or practical and splurge on occassions, these times will not bring any new awareness to what we do…but to those who have to regroup on how they use the resources they have, it may well be a very big learning curve for them…but to some degree this may be good overall…more ppl will start to thing about how to purchase things with less cost and in turn, less waste (i.e. unnecessary packinging)…more bulk purchasing…and co-shopping (i.e sharing Costco, BJ’s and Sam’s Club purchases)….we may need this in order to get back to the more practical and simpler lifestyles of previous generations…not the struggles perse, but the meaningufulness of a truly abundant life without squanderance and waste.

By AmazonRed

February 27, 2009 10:44 AM | Link to this

I tried to be as sensitive to their situations as I could without making them feel bad, neither handled it well. They got mean and nasty. Showed me early on how they handled adversity

Tazzee, I’m not one to ask the typical gold digging questions like “what do you do” in the first convo, so I wasn’t aware of his situation at first. It kind of makes you want to ask, so you know what kind of mindset he might be operating from. But I just might back away if a dude were to say “i’m not working right now,” even if it’s a (hopefully) temporary situation.

Glad you dogged a bullet in your situations!

As for him being a keeper…too soon to tell. Things I liked, things I didn’t like.

Truth, I’m giving you a big hug right now.

By Tazzee

February 27, 2009 10:44 AM | Link to this

M loved your assessment. I don’t know, I’ve always been grateful when a guy takes me out on a date. A guy broke it down to me about 5 years ago when we were talking about how more single women were buying homes than single men. He talked about the cost of dating and how that may have been a factor. Whether or not it was, ever since then I’ve been appreciative of a man’s gesture to pay for the both of us. Yes, I can treat myself to the nicest restaurants but that’s just me. Now when I go out with my girls, I sometimes look at my part of the bill and imagine what it must be like trying to pay for two…

Cemeeli yup, got one tonight.

By Cemeeli

February 27, 2009 10:45 AM | Link to this

Hey Beautiful!

@ Mytwo- You boobing you head and singing that hook, ain’t cha? <— me knows these thangs.

By AmazonRed

February 27, 2009 10:46 AM | Link to this

Perhaps later on you’ll be so kind as to extend your ‘Deese’ with cheese to a deserving candidate

mytwo, how could you?!? lol Bite your tongue young lady!!!

By Raqi

February 27, 2009 10:47 AM | Link to this

M Yeah I know. From their statements I imagine their goal is to get the person to agree to buy them lunch upfront. Like this one digger that has been ignoring this one super nerd that has liked her since the day he laid eyes on her and she has never given him the time of day. One of my co-workers forewarned him via email that she was headed his way. She never left the office so he must have turned her down.

By Leggs

February 27, 2009 10:47 AM | Link to this

LOL…I wanted to say “beautiful” head, but didn’t want the real “beautiful” to hurt herself cheesing (LOL).

This recession will have a lot more experiencing home cooked meals. This 93 year woman was on GMA with her receipe of “Poor Man’s Dinner”…potatoes, onions, sliced hotdogs in a savory sauce (LOL).

By Dan

February 27, 2009 10:50 AM | Link to this

@melo

Dag man, I said my bad!

@my2

They got cha boy down hure struggling, and misery does love company. But again my bad.

@Truth

The only people that ever really survive recessions are the one that make habits during the good time and the bad.

And you’re right, the gobment is in debt. But here’s the quiet little secret, no one on the Earth really cares. America doesn’t have to pay her debts, because she’s a bucouck.

But I would like to posit this to the board: bet them double whopper dates don’t sound so bad right about now, huh?

wit cheeze

By Raqi

February 27, 2009 10:53 AM | Link to this

Exactly kimmie. It’s easier because you have each other’s interest at heart already. I don’t doubt there are some people out that get it. And this right here is their time to shine.

By kimmie

February 27, 2009 10:55 AM | Link to this

Leggs - Yeah, that was a trip. And would you believe there were women calling in defending that mess?!! Hope ole dude runs for the hills! By the way, were you able to find a yellow layer cake recipe? Pretty please?LOL!!

AmRed - That was me, not Tazz, but thanks, I sho did dodge a bullet with those two!

By lurker

February 27, 2009 10:56 AM | Link to this

2pennies Lurkers A-Z Surely there are some crazy @zz burning questions. Sista Gurl, Church Lady, anybody out there?

LOL

By AmazonRed

February 27, 2009 10:57 AM | Link to this

Sorry kimmie and (Tazzee)!

By M.

February 27, 2009 10:59 AM | Link to this

@Tazzee

Thanks for understanding. It is not about a guy being cheap or anything, like my Pastor says, you aint all that! Therefore, your conversation is not the most stimulating I will ever have in my life and I can go out and eat alone and be cool with that, but I am taking you out because I think you are cool and want to get to know you. Ive seen my share of dinner and drink pimps in Atlanta, they are recession proof!

@Raqi

I get you Raqi. It is a ton of those CC’s (Corporate Chickens, hey, I just made that up!) in my office too up here in sandy springs. The thing is does the same dating rules apply in the workplace since it is just lunch? Using your example, how can she get the guy to agree to lunch if he doesnt ask? So if she ask’s, * hey john, let’s go to lunch today* since she asked, the famous whoever asked pays rule is coming now shouldnt she pay?

@Blog I have been wondering, what is the difference between dating and prostitution? I’m a grown man, I said it, deal with it :)

By AmazonRed

February 27, 2009 11:01 AM | Link to this

But I would like to posit this to the board: bet them double whopper dates don’t sound so bad right about now, huh?

Dan, sure they do. lol

By M'Karyl

February 27, 2009 11:02 AM | Link to this

@Leggs

Turth be told, there are a lot of great recipes that can be done with low cost and slam (i.e. don’t look and taste like po’ mouth meals…lol)…I do a lot of asian influenced dishes stir-fry style…sliced/diced meats…bag of frazen veggies…soy, teriyaki,asian dressing marinades…rice…goes along way…meal for two is now for six…frittatas…hey-ale, I need my own cooking good on a budget foodtv show…show’em how to make soaps, candles, clothes, jewelry…lol.

By Beautiful

February 27, 2009 11:04 AM | Link to this

what shakin’ cee, mytwo? lol.

you know what is so wonderful right now? not being in love! have you noticed how love makes you do crazy thangs … can’t eat, can’t sleep, all those butterflies kickin’ yo azz. lol. i just now realized that i’m doing more for myself now than i’ve ever did. and i enjoy it.

flippin’ it. now you know i should be careful for what i wish for! a sista need love too.

2c hit me up. just wanna say hey!

By Leggs

February 27, 2009 11:07 AM | Link to this

Kimmee, I went through my recipes and couldn’t find my yellow cake. So I went online and found a recipe for you. I doubt the bloggers would want me to post it here so give me your email and I’ll send it to you.

By THE MELO

February 27, 2009 11:09 AM | Link to this

I have been wondering, what is the difference between dating and prostitution?

No real diff,u dont have to ask that maan!!.Dating is euphamism for prostitution.For example,Beautiful was with Kel in December now its Ray,who knows who it gonna be in April??? Fell me M Same with the other bloggettes.They wont tell u the playas tho,unlike Beau.She gets so immersed and smothered by the playa-hoodwink-folooery so much as to think its gonna last. Lunch/dinner,here we come.Next!

By AmazonRed

February 27, 2009 11:09 AM | Link to this

Turth be told, there are a lot of great recipes that can be done with low cost and slam

M’Karyl, you bring up a good point. The recession is bad for me, cuz guys are expecting the women to cook now!

Hmm…I’m still okay on my disposible income AND I have at least 4 friends who are chefs…maybe I can use this to my benefit.

By Beautiful

February 27, 2009 11:12 AM | Link to this

this is all new to me … not having a lovelife.

i have spent more time with friends/family, talkin’ on the phone with my bf’s and it has brought me closer to the ppl i really care for. :o)

By Beautiful

February 27, 2009 11:17 AM | Link to this

melo kel is my son you JACKAZZ! lol. and i’m not committed to no one. just friends. ain’t nobody hittin’ this.

you a two-faced mofo! and so are a lot of others on here.

By Leggs

February 27, 2009 11:20 AM | Link to this

M, if she asks to do lunch then she should pay!

M’Karyl one thing I know how to do is stretch a dollar and make good low budget delicious meals.

By M'Karyl

February 27, 2009 11:22 AM | Link to this

LOL @ Corporate Chickenheads…sad but so true.

I have been going out by myself since I was 17…barhopping, eating out…maybe a few buds and such…male and female…so when I moved to the ATL, I just kept my rhythym flowing…what was so funny was how many chicks looked at me sideways because I did not have a problem with going out and spending my own money…and that I was not looking for a sponsor…lol…but by the same token, I would alwyas run into good bar company, share hoots and laughs…and quite often encountered many generous ppl who pciked up the tab just because we had fun…just keeping it real…still do that here in the VA.

By kimmie

February 27, 2009 11:23 AM | Link to this

Leggs Thanks so much! It’s a little crazy up in here about the email policy & I just changed my home one. If you could give me where you got it online or if you list the ingredients & amounts here I know how to put it together.

Good looking out, cause I’ve tried everywhere!

By The Truth

February 27, 2009 11:23 AM | Link to this

M I have been wondering, what is the difference between dating and prostitution? Prostitution is illegal. LOL

Dan you’re poorer because of the current economy also and one pink slip away from being poorer still. My strategy is save for short term and long term and spend the rest.

WTH is bucouck?

Update: I mentioned my neighbors wall falling down last week. Well they got it back up and it really looks nice. Great job. It’s like 8 feet high and done in brick. Anyway, I look out this morning and its fallen down again. This ish is funny.

Ared thanks for the hug. Pretty nice hug for a sliim chick.

By Cemeeli

February 27, 2009 11:25 AM | Link to this

Hi Ms. Beautiful - If you were in love would you be advocating love? no You crack me up. Now it’s okay to be in love and do your thang.

Work your thang…ah…ah!

Hey Kimmie!

Where that gurl from the Dec?

PoppaG I’m calling roll on you too. Lol

By M'Karyl

February 27, 2009 11:26 AM | Link to this

@ARed

Uh-huh…offer to buy the groceries…lol…and let them do the cooking…well worth it for sure…especially to get a slamming meal.

@Leggs

True…the idea that one has to eat unpalatable food simply because it is cheap does not fly with me…yuck…shoot, get some rice, red beans, smoked sausage…spice it up…cook some cornbread…about $5 worth of food…and slam on…lol.

By Kym

February 27, 2009 11:27 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

I was cheap before the recession. Anyone who knows me knows this. I have a limit on the amount I spend for fun. 15.00. How do you say can you have fun for only 15.00? Because I look for events and happenings around the city. The summer time and early spring are the best for this because there are so many things happening around the city. Wednesday wind down free. Drinks and light refreshments(15.00) NBAF most events are free(light supper with friends 15.00) Taking the boy to the movies(there is a dollar theatre in our area-popcorn 6.00 bucks with .25cent refills, drinks 6.00 with free refills as long as you are at the show.(15.00) Eat after or before at home. Heck there are tons of ways to have fun without eating. I love bookstores, so who is to say two can’t meet for a light coffee and browse the books at Borders or Barnes and Noble(are they same thing now I swear these mergers are happening so fast.) Anyway there are lots of things to do that don’t have to cost alot. Oh yeah I am also a fan of the “brown bag lunch date” again when it is warmer nice to meet in a neutral location close to each other and have a nice chat and chew.

By Dan

February 27, 2009 11:28 AM | Link to this

@Truth

Actually, my spending and savings have me blessed enough to be able to ride out a pink slip.

I actually quit my last gig confident in the fact that I could ride it out and go for something better.

Bucouck though I may have spelled it incorrectly, is italian slang for itchb.

By Leggs

February 27, 2009 11:29 AM | Link to this

Here you go kimmie

http://www.landolakes.com/mealideas/ViewRecipe.cfm?RecipeID=12632

By Tazzee

February 27, 2009 11:30 AM | Link to this

M difference between dating and prostitution….no sex is involved.

AmRed yeah, that wanting me to cook is a casualty of the recession. Like you my disposable income is still OK, so I guess I’ll just be paying for meals even more than in the past, LOL.

By Leggs

February 27, 2009 11:34 AM | Link to this

M’Karyl, yep. Food worthy of the infamous BAM!

By M.

February 27, 2009 11:34 AM | Link to this

@Leggs

I agree ;)

@Truth

It’s illegal, yes, but so is bootlegging movies, drugs, and stealing cable but people still do it! LOL You don’t know what people are doing behind closed doors. Just because it’s illegal doesnt mean people arent doing it. They also dont have a big sign on their forehead’s with prices on it. Whether they want to admit it or not, as long as they are doing some type of arrangement, they are involved. Frank and Wanda were talking about this yesterday. If a woman is dating a guy and you guys are involved physically and he is taking care of you to some degree, what’s the difference?

By THE MELO

February 27, 2009 11:34 AM | Link to this

Ok,i confuse the december guy,whats his name Beautiful??

Truth,why u gotta send the dogs all the way to the Carolinas and not here in GA? Specialised home or smething? M, where are the corporate chickenheads with hands stretched out? I got a lil obamasurplus as long as they oblige.Now thats called corporate profsnal prostituting!!!

By Raqi

February 27, 2009 11:37 AM | Link to this

“…no sex is involved”

Tazzee I was thinking more like no sex guaranteed.

By Leggs

February 27, 2009 11:38 AM | Link to this

Kym, I definitely have to keep that in mind, have a nice chat and chew.

By Beautiful

February 27, 2009 11:38 AM | Link to this

cee my off the wall comments is me thinkin’ out loud. they really don’t need replies. lol. you know, like a diary.

If you were in love would you be advocating love? yes i support love. i love being in love, but NOT ALL LOVE IS GOOD FOR YOU.

By Raqi

February 27, 2009 11:42 AM | Link to this

I meant sex is not guaranteed in dating.

By kimmie

February 27, 2009 11:42 AM | Link to this

Thanks Leggs, the frosting recipe looks good too! Great website, I am going to study the other recipes on it too! Love some Land O Lakes, that’s all my mom used, along with Swans Down cake flour. She baked her yellow cake from memory, never did write down the recipe. I’m trying to find something that duplicates the taste of hers. I’ll let you know how it turns out!

By Kym

February 27, 2009 11:42 AM | Link to this

Melo Did you heed my warnings last month about sharing stuff with “Looney Lovegood”? SMH

Harry Potter fans will get that reference

Truth I have not done as instructed yet regarding the house because I trying to see what is going to happen with old Fannie and Mr. Freddie first I want to see what happens with this new “stimulus fun” money. But I am going for it this year..I like the idea of the 1st time homebuyer tax credit. Now what do you know about HUD homes? I got some info yesterday about buying one..so now I am on that research track.

By MrLiberty

February 27, 2009 11:44 AM | Link to this

The only positive about this recession, soon to be depression, will be if enough americans finally wake up and realize that it is the result of the Federal Reserve monetary policy and the wastefull deficit spending of the government (both parties equally responsible). If this recession keeps more people in and reading the internet, causes new folks to meet and hopefully chat about the economic crisis then it will be a good thing. Otherwise, there is nothing positive about this kind of economic crisis. The malinvestment that has been encouraged by the government policies will lead to a lower standard of living for many future generations.

If you are spending time with someone you love and want something to do besides watching the idiot box, then check out these sites and get a serious discussion going.

www.mises.org www.lewrockwell.com www.campaignforliberty.com

You mave have found a new sweetie, but it will be of little consequence if you have to spend time with them every day in a soup line begging for food.

By SlimOne

February 27, 2009 11:44 AM | Link to this

Sup folks I’ve experienced both sides of the spectrum during this recession. Had one brother invite me out for lunch at McDonalds but I told him I’d rather Burger King. I worked at Mickey D’s when I was younger and just can’t do burgers there. Breakfast is a different thing. When I asked if I can get cheese too he said I could but that means he wouldn’t be able to get cheese too. LOL! On other hand, I had this other brother willing to fly me down to Florida to hang out for the weekend. So the recession isn’t necessarily affecting everybody. I’d actually be cool going to Ci Ci’s pizza because you can get pizza AND salad, all you can eat! Whoo hooo hooo! Gotta find the deals….check out ESPN ZONE weekend deal

Looking for a fun outing with family or friends? Join us for two hours of unlimited game play every Saturday and Sunday from 11am–1pm for only $1 during ESPN Zone’s 2-Hour Power Play. Due to popular demand, ESPN Zone’s 2-Hour Power Play has been extended through Sunday, March 8th, 2009*

By M.

February 27, 2009 11:45 AM | Link to this

@The MELO

On the real, it is about 30 of them in our office.

@The Truth and Melo, and Blue Kolla

Now here is another interesting dating theory that I came across and since we are talking about the recession, I know a girl and we were talking about relationships, and she went through the whole spiel about how she was independent, doesnt need a man and can do for herself. Cool but also she said she is very traditional. Her mom told her that she never should have to offer to pay for a date with a guy unless she wants to. She also said she feels that the man should take care of all the bills, spoil her, and in her words Be the Man I guess this was her mother’s views being transcribed onto her…I wonder why her mom is single…..My question is what is she going to do? Remember they need to bring more to the table than that one thing!Thoughts?

By Leggs

February 27, 2009 11:49 AM | Link to this

I love that website kimmie. If you ever want to make blintzes as a pastry, I have an excellent receipe served w/apple butter, marmalade or alone! Sorry,

Back to regularly scheduled topic. Hopefully, the trend toward shopping and cooking groceries together will make great date nights!

By The Truth

February 27, 2009 11:49 AM | Link to this

M then again, that sounds like marriage too. LMAO Goes back to my saying “All women are hoes and all men are tricks”

Melo actually they’re in Virginia. Because of their training they need folks that are familiar with what they can do. I could have found a home near me but the people would have done the wrong things and it would be ugly. I would have put them to sleep before i let them go to the wrong home.

By M.

February 27, 2009 11:49 AM | Link to this

@The MELO

On the real, it is about 30 of them in our office.

@The Truth and Melo, and Blue Kolla

Now here is another interesting dating theory that I came across and since we are talking about the recession, I know a girl and we were talking about relationships, and she went through the whole spiel about how she was independent, doesnt need a man and can do for herself. Cool but also she said she is very traditional. Her mom told her that she never should have to offer to pay for a date with a guy unless she wants to. She also said she feels that the man should take care of all the bills, spoil her, and in her words Be the Man I guess this was her mother’s views being transcribed onto her…I wonder why her mom is single…..My question is what is she going to do? Remember they need to bring more to the table than that one thing!Thoughts?

By Cemeeli

February 27, 2009 11:51 AM | Link to this

Kym You are not cheap. Jus a miser, like myself.

Beautiful Okay, got that. You put it out there…but, yea.

By Cemeeli

February 27, 2009 11:53 AM | Link to this

Auntie K The lil boy would like a visit to ESPN. Thanks for the info ma!

By THE MELO

February 27, 2009 11:54 AM | Link to this

Kym i have not.Smetimes i find stuff in my much publicized home mail box and I say hmmmmmm

By M'Karyl

February 27, 2009 12:02 PM | Link to this

@Kimmie

My moms used Swans Down too…she has never made a box cake in her life…mayne, her cakes are light as a feather…I made my first cake with Swans Down about 3 years ago…a Devil Food chocolate cake with Raspberry Buttercream frosting…also from scratch…that cake had a short shelf life…lol…but using the Downs was easier than I thought and well worth it.

By Raqi

February 27, 2009 12:03 PM | Link to this

M not only is what she says contradictory, but her views on traditionalism is way off. Being traditional does not mean having a man spoil you and do everything for you. It means adhering to the law of the man being the head of the house and the woman the helpmate. Trusting and allowing the man to take the lead but working together all the same.

Your girl is twisted.

By Leggs

February 27, 2009 12:03 PM | Link to this

Raspberry Buttercream. I love anything raspberry. Yummy!

By THE MELO

February 27, 2009 12:04 PM | Link to this

M difference between dating and prostitution….no sex is involved U too strict Tazzee.Smtimes spontanaeity is allowed,u know.Going by the book all the time,every time without fail kills romance and luv and whatever may develop further.Besides,that rule of no sexx is proly urs alone and 1 or 2 other bible adherence on the blog.Getting sexxed on 1st,2nd dates is happening in Atlanta,believe that. Now the ladies will not readily agree to this.They will proly say,oh yeah,if we feel like it,why not,we grown But im not gonna pre-empt them.Let them tell us,melo,it aint so!…

I bet ur dogs(hw many u got) wil kill if anybody messes with them Truth.I never had dogs be4 in my lyfe so am not very knowleadgeable and such. Mkyl,hit me up,i need to ask/teach me sme.. takpat78@gmail.com

By Leggs

February 27, 2009 12:08 PM | Link to this

Truth, I know you’re going to miss your dogs, and I know you feel good knowing hey are well cared for. Hope you carrying a picture of them around with you.

By kimmie

February 27, 2009 12:13 PM | Link to this

M’karyl - Sounds wonderful. It’s something about berries & chocolate that are so great together too.

Yeah, I swear by Swans Down. I made a cake once with all-purpose and it was like cornbread. Now I go buy Swans Down in bulk at the farmers market for my cake business.

Leggs - Will be getting that blintz recipe from you real soon!

By M'Karyl

February 27, 2009 12:14 PM | Link to this

@Leggs

I have this book called The Cake Bible…it is the jam…it has recipes for making all types of cakes, waffles, pancakes, muffins, etc from scratch…and it also has all sorts of frosting recipes…buttercream, fondant…name it…just the bomb…found thr recipe in there for both the cake and the frosting.

By The Truth

February 27, 2009 12:17 PM | Link to this

M this is an interesting question. Ok, we want a woman to submit to our will and follow so we must “bring something” to negotiate that transaction. Something that a woman deems important. In my experience women love security like we love sex. Maybe more. What we do is trade what we have (hopefully security) for what we want(that booty) which is the description of prostitution. /sure we dress it up and use words like love an d caring but if the key ingredients arent there there’s really nothing to negotiate. This is why when we get with a chick she must perform. If I dont deny you then you wont deny me. The folks I see that are most unhappy are the ones that negotiated and arent getting what they bargained and are too weak to leave. My .02

As every man thats ever hung out with a woman knows, it cost. No problem. Just get what you’re paying for.

Kym no problem. /the info is out there for you. Just ask if you need help. Btw, a HUD home is simply a home purchased using FHA insured loan that is lost by the purchaser and it goes back to HUD who sells it. The free market equivalent is the bank owned or REO home which happens when say Wells Fargo issues a loan that is defaulted on. The home goes back to WF who then puts it on the market.

Generally, and this is not 100%, a bank owned home will be in better condition because the original purchaser was, how can I say this, more responsible. In my experience its 95% true but MOST FHA loans are for people with credit challenges of some type. If they wont pay their bills its not a far stretch to say they wont care for their home.

By M'Karyl

February 27, 2009 12:18 PM | Link to this

@kimmie

You should look for that Cake Bible book then…it is loaded with recipes and ideas…love the variations on buttercream frostings…name a baking recipe and it is in this book.

By Tazzee

February 27, 2009 12:25 PM | Link to this

Swans Down is definitely ‘it’ for cakes. I was so happy when my friend introduced me to it.

M’Karyl I’m going to look for the cake bible too - I love to bake.

By THE MELO

February 27, 2009 12:30 PM | Link to this

My question is what is she going to do?

She is much easier to bring on board,assuming she meets a strong man.Cause she is confused already as it is and dont know who she is,when she meets a charming man,with a strong hand,shes proly a keeper,assuming her morals are on target.That single mother of hers,looming in the background,may be a slight problem but a strong man will shake her off in the initial stages and establish his ground.In addition,every man will be subjected to strong head winds,early on in a marriage,either from the bride’s family or the bride.Thats where a man’s mettle is established.If u dont cuss them/her off in those early confrontations and stand ur ground,then u know,u are lunch from then onwards! Im out to lunch..wheh,this is such a difficult meal for me,alwayz! Enjoy urs!!

By kimmie

February 27, 2009 12:31 PM | Link to this

M’karyl - I heard about that book! I just pulled it up on Amazon - thanks!

By mytwocents

February 27, 2009 12:34 PM | Link to this

ARed It’s a desperate plea for some ol fashioned shuckin n jivin. I figure of the two extremes on this nice rainy day, might as well be entertained by a tantrum.

Don’t wanna deflect anybod’s high ytryna get my own so carryon…

Hi SlimGina Miss ya!

Oh look, the Blog Bar is now open…

By mytwocents

February 27, 2009 12:35 PM | Link to this

ARed It’s a desperate plea for some ol fashioned shuckin n jivin. I figure of the two extremes on this nice rainy day, might as well be entertained by a tantrum.

Don’t wanna deflect anybod’s high ytryna get my own so carryon…

Hi SlimGina Miss ya!

Oh look, the Blog Bar is now open…

By anonymousella

February 27, 2009 12:37 PM | Link to this

my dating habits haven’t changed at all yet. still only dating once a month because my boyfriend is on the west coast.

this time when he came to town, i cooked dinner. usually we go out. but that’s not really a budget-conscious cutback since we’re still spending money on cross-country flights once a month. in fact, we can do a little more now that fares have dropped.

luckily our jobs are secure (for now) so we can still do this high flying.

By M'Karyl

February 27, 2009 12:41 PM | Link to this

@kimmie

Cool…the book will be worth your while to have with a cake business.

By AmazonRed

February 27, 2009 12:46 PM | Link to this

ARed It’s a desperate plea for some ol fashioned shuckin n jivin.

mytwo, I was considering going there after reading one of the posts on here, but I decided to leave it alone.

We keep talking about cakes though and I may just be bored enough to backtrack. LOL

By Kym

February 27, 2009 12:53 PM | Link to this

Truth Thanks for explaining that.. I get what you are saying. Now I understand there is something called a 203K to help with repairs if the home is eligible for that. I looked over the site and saw a few homes not eligible for 203K. What I am amazed at seeing with some of these houses(besides price) is folks taking the damn cabinets out of the houses. If you have gotten sat out on the street..why in the world are you taking the cabinets with you. I mean why steal cabinets.

By Tazzee

February 27, 2009 12:56 PM | Link to this

I got my tax refund today! Now I just need a house to spend it on…

By Wise Diva

February 27, 2009 1:01 PM | Link to this

SlimOne thanks for that info! We should start a recession special feature and share affordable weekend specials/discounts/free fun stuff on Fridays. You guys remind me too, my memory is bad

By Raqi

February 27, 2009 1:08 PM | Link to this

..tax refund..

Tazzee what’s that? I didn’t know you spoke German.

By Cemeeli

February 27, 2009 1:10 PM | Link to this

Tazzee will you fill my tax papers out?

By M'Karyl

February 27, 2009 1:16 PM | Link to this

Got some great Paid Marketing Study leads…need some ppl for:

http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.aspx?sm=UkAd2fYyb40FBCxVuAqLCNQ3d_3d

http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.aspx?sm=1mZT2byFOHy0hi079wkPvAQ3d_3d

By Cemeeli

February 27, 2009 1:19 PM | Link to this

Slim That ESPN is right on time for real. I wonder if they doing a special for birthday parties. 11-1 is good for the shorties.

By lurker

February 27, 2009 1:20 PM | Link to this

It’s simple. The bottom has fallen out of the economy, our homes jobs and living are on the downside, things are bound to get worse before getting better. At some point if you haven’t been you will be affected. We adjust accordingly. Scale everything down a notch or two and be more empathetic to the alternatives in which the good times are now rolling.

Beautiful - but NOT ALL LOVE IS GOOD FOR YOU Then certainly you wouldn’t classify it as love. No?

M-Difference between dating and prostituting None

By M'Karyl

February 27, 2009 1:21 PM | Link to this

Oops kinda sloppy…but I got an email that I can forward…this company pays some decent cash for the studies that they conduct.

By SlimOne

February 27, 2009 1:25 PM | Link to this

You all are very welcome. I’m trying to Blog from my blackberry so this should be interesting.

By lurker

February 27, 2009 1:25 PM | Link to this

no refund for me…paying taxes this year….

By SlimOne

February 27, 2009 1:27 PM | Link to this

You all are very welcome. I’m trying to Blog from my blackberry so this should be interesting.

By Raqi

February 27, 2009 1:36 PM | Link to this

I used to get a tax refund but it went away after the nuptials.

By M.

February 27, 2009 1:41 PM | Link to this

@Raqi

I agree she is twisted and that is why she is alone or as someone said on the blog 2 weeks ago, another reason why nobody wants her.

@Lurker

Exactly my point…Also the difference, someone doesnt waste as much time!

@Truth

Well said! It is definately dressed up. Also alot of women lie to themselves and justify what they are doing in relationships even if it is bad. I know guys do this to.

By M.

February 27, 2009 1:45 PM | Link to this

@Raqi

I agree she is twisted and that is why she is alone or as someone said on the blog 2 weeks ago, another reason why nobody wants her.

@Lurker

Exactly my point…Also the difference, someone doesnt waste as much time!

@Truth

Well said! It is definately dressed up. Also alot of women lie to themselves and justify what they are doing in relationships even if it is bad. I know guys do this to.

By Tazzee

February 27, 2009 1:49 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli Sis, you know I’ll do your taxes for you if you need me to. Can’t guarantee a refund but I can get them done.

Raqi Actually, I prefer not to get one - give me mine throughout the year. Apparently my W4 updates aren’t working.

By M.

February 27, 2009 1:50 PM | Link to this

@Raqi

I agree she is twisted and that is why she is alone or as someone said on the blog 2 weeks ago, another reason why nobody wants her.

@Lurker

Exactly my point…Also the difference, someone doesnt waste as much time!

@Truth

Well said! It is definately dressed up. Also alot of women lie to themselves and justify what they are doing in relationships even if it is bad. I know guys do this to.

By Richard Johnson

February 27, 2009 1:57 PM | Link to this

Recession good for love? Nah, I recently told my wife that I can’t stand her and that I hate her. She said the feeling was mutual. Now, we pretty much stay at opposite ends of our house. The toughest thing is, money is so tight, I can’t afford to have an affair.

By Cemeeli

February 27, 2009 1:58 PM | Link to this

@ Raqi – Sorry.

Tazzee I need every refund even if it’s only $100.00. I need all.

I gotta get my contributions statement from church and some other papers from my son’s school. Been working this tax season with these auditors has me off on completing my own taxes.

By Beautiful

February 27, 2009 2:05 PM | Link to this

i see big gurl wanna get funky today! keep on smart azz.

By Raqi

February 27, 2009 2:07 PM | Link to this

Tazzee you know with two kids and a mortgage and then claiming only 1 throughout the year I would get back something. Mase pays himself a set commission instead of wages and with us filing joint anything that I was getting got absorbed by what he owed. I keep begging him to put himself on the payroll. Whether he did this year or not, we will see…

By Raqi

February 27, 2009 2:08 PM | Link to this

Diva did you delete my question to you?

By Raqi

February 27, 2009 2:10 PM | Link to this

Cee it’s all good.

By Texas

February 27, 2009 2:11 PM | Link to this

The recession killed my relationship. The guy that I was dating owned his own business and the business decreased in sales. He was constantly too busy trying to start up another business that he thought would make up the funds. He never wanted my input in his business and the communication between us wasn’t there. His ego was too big and I guess having a woman give suggestions would belittle him. The time that we use to spend together was no more.

By Beautiful

February 27, 2009 2:13 PM | Link to this

lurker hey! how’s it goin’?

the love that is wrong for you imo … closing off the important things in your life and making your man the center of your attention, for example. everything around you suffers.

and again i support love and can’t wait until it comes around again. :o)

By Raqi

February 27, 2009 2:20 PM | Link to this

Amazon did you previously post under the name of firestarter.

By Cemeeli

February 27, 2009 2:22 PM | Link to this

Cee it’s all good.

Raqi – okay.

If I get married I think filling jointly would definitely be a thing that I’d have to not consider.

I here you on the one dependant. I did someone’s taxes that has 3 dependants and she got 5021 back? She worked 9 months that year back! and i help her get childcare break by adding it under her itemized deductions. She said she had never gotten that much back.

That sister when straight to the furniture store. She siad she needed beds for all her kids.

By THE MELO

February 27, 2009 2:23 PM | Link to this

The toughest thing is, money is so tight For the 2 offenses,not reading econs and truthfulness& candidness about ur feelings,u got to pay a price then.If u had left that alone,she wld have been getting hers on the side, and u too,but the bills wld have still been shared and gettin’ paid. I need to start a suckers school! lol I need every refund even if it’s only $100.00 only $100.00??? I need to hook a sister up with a professnl tax accounthustler preparer then.U guaranteed a BiG cheque!.No audits from irs,trust me!They open offices in nov/dec and close shop may 31,pronto.

Its raining witches & wizards out there,goodness!! Ive never been bothered by my own fart,not untill this past lunch hr.Was driving to the bank,its was pouring and the windows were jam closed.Then i had that moment of madness and let loose one bazooka sleuth..fuuuuuuuu.Daaaayyme,what a mistake coz it was staaaank in that muffckka truck cabin! Had to roll the window a bit,the water spoiled my pants dry clean crease a lil bit,but anyhoo.Thats what they call,tasting ur own medicine…

So what uall talking about mytwo?? * shuckin n jivin*?? Well,if it is what i think it is and this rain madness continues..smebody is getting sme tonite..again and wipe,again and wipe(just 2).My stamina cant handle tripple! Unless i get juiced up.

By lurker

February 27, 2009 2:23 PM | Link to this

Beautiful-closing off the important things in your life and making your man the center of your attention, for example. everything around you suffers. That’s not even suffocating that’s choking your ownself. Compromise ain’t compromising. JMHO

By AmazonRed

February 27, 2009 2:28 PM | Link to this

The recession killed my relationship.

Texas, welcome. I guess everyone needs something to blame. Do you think you would have lived happily ever after with a guy who couldn’t communicate, recession or not?

By Tazzee

February 27, 2009 2:31 PM | Link to this

melo you are a certified NUT! LOL.

I sure hope the rain dies down soon (prolly won’t) I’m not looking forward to traffic this evening.

By AmazonRed

February 27, 2009 2:35 PM | Link to this

Amazon did you previously post under the name of firestarter.

Raqi, I’ve only ever posted under AmazonRed. I’m not afraid to post under one screen name.

By Raqi

February 27, 2009 2:36 PM | Link to this

Cee it’s just one of the shots that I take for the team.

I used to kind of look at it as a savings plan. Pay more in year and then get a refund. Mase is more like Tazzee, “give me my money. now!”

He always say he’ll dance with uncle sam in april.

By Cemeeli

February 27, 2009 2:43 PM | Link to this

a savings plan. You can work that!

Raqi

Pay more in year and then get a refund. Mase is more like Tazzee, “give me my money. now!”

I using Unc’s “6months off 6 months on Plan”. Tazzee should know about it.

Uncle Sam’s gonna pay Cee in April and give earned money too.

By Tazzee

February 27, 2009 2:45 PM | Link to this

Raqi If I ever get this thing right, I would prefer to have to pay a little than get a refund. Uncle Sam’s got my $$$ throughout the year and you know he’s not paying me any interest! I can at least earn the 2% or whatever rate ING pays me.

With that said - I’m not complaining this year. With moving, putting a downpayment on the new home and all the other expenses I’ll have - that refund will definitely be used.

By Leggs

February 27, 2009 2:51 PM | Link to this

I got my tax refund back last night and went to deposit it into my savings and found an extra $350 in my savings account. It’s under investigation right now. It’s not my money and I know it.

By Tazzee

February 27, 2009 2:52 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli I’ve seen that 6 months off 6 months on plan bite folks in the butt. I’m sure you’re careful with yours though.

By Cemeeli

February 27, 2009 2:54 PM | Link to this

Dont mind my grammar errors.

Multi-tasking is a good thang.

By DreamsMaterialize

February 27, 2009 2:56 PM | Link to this

Hey I’m rollin in late, but I’m rollin.

On-topic Nothing wrong with coupons. I used that TGIF coupon for lunch today. It was packed in that joint. Everyone had the same idea.

Funny, I was talking to a chick on the phone the other night, and we were talking about first dates. She says, “I wish a guy would take me to a place like Chili’s or Applebees on a first date. He better take me somewhere nice. You gotta work your way up to taking me to a cheap restaurant.” WTF??? So, later in the convo she asks me when we’re going on a date, and I’m like when your attitude changes.

By Cemeeli

February 27, 2009 3:02 PM | Link to this

Tazzee…I’ve been just fine with it.

The tax department informs me now if there are any other breaks i could take before i go back on the 31%.

When on that, you have to make sure June 1 doesn’t come before you do the form again.

By Tazzee

February 27, 2009 3:02 PM | Link to this

Dreams LOL, you sure picked a good one.

I had the exact opposite conversation with a guy last night. He wanted me to pick the place where we’re going to dinner tonight and I’m not quite familiar with the area - so I started listing restaurants. Finally I picked one and he felt it wasn’t ‘nice’ enough. I told him we could work our way up to the expensive restaurants.

sometimes I wonder if I’m selling myself short…

By AmazonRed

February 27, 2009 3:03 PM | Link to this

I wish a guy would take me to a place like Chili’s or Applebees on a first date. He better take me somewhere nice. You gotta work your way up to taking me to a cheap restaurant.”

Dreams, ha ha ha! Poor thing. Was she like 23 or something? LOL

But with that attitude, she’d be good for Rell or Dan. lol

By AmazonRed

February 27, 2009 3:04 PM | Link to this

So it looks the blog will be moving to nicer digs on Monday. Anyone trying to pack up all these boxes and skeletons in the blog closet? LOL

By Raqi

February 27, 2009 3:13 PM | Link to this

Tazzee one of my ex co-workers use to play with her allowances throughout year banking on using her child tax credit and all to offset any “problems” come tax time. Something went terribly wrong and she got got.

You know this already but with the kids there are the automatic credits and then the interest paid with the mortgage. Those two alone pretty much guarantees a refund. I have never played with allowances but I figured that $20something difference in claiming 1 versus 3 was worth giving up and getting back in one lump. But yeah I get that it could be earning interest elsewhere.

Don’t tell nobody this but I put 50% of my sons child support into an interest earning savings so that he can have the money when he moves out of my house. But Imma keep the interest. That belongs to me. I did the same for my oldest with settlement and SSI that I received from his father’s accident. I use some as part of the dp for this house and the rest I put in savings until he left. I took the initial amount out and keep the interest. Now I just issue him his part on a monthly payment plan.

By Blow Me

February 27, 2009 3:16 PM | Link to this

WD When did they let JM @ THE ajc?

By Tazzee

February 27, 2009 3:22 PM | Link to this

Raqi technically, because you’ve been housing, clothing, feeding, etc the boys all these years you’re entitled to the total amount. So go ahead and keep that interest. I think it’s great you set that aside for them. If I had kids, they’d be on their own when they left the house. j/k…I think

By Raqi

February 27, 2009 3:26 PM | Link to this

Tazzee and Dreams that has always been an interesting situation to me. In the more comfortable and common you become do you work your way up or down? The more a woman becomes wifey material the less expensive an outing can because you all are down like that and have that understanding?!?! (Not really questions just things that make…you all know the rest)

A wife, rather this wife, does not expect her husband to treat her to Chops or the like every time we eat out. Apples/Chili/Long/Olive/Red and any other chain restaurant scaled types are fine. But the new girl expects to be royally wined and dined until she decides he is worth a less expensive day. (Again not really a question, just a hmmmm)

Heck we, at my house, eat Fruit Loops out of a shared mixing bowl with tablespoons and a bottle of juice. We all good.

By Cemeeli

February 27, 2009 3:27 PM | Link to this

Raqi - Really I wonder what she did wrong. She should have found her a CPA. You gotta know the rules! I wonder if she ever got some help with that?

We gotta help each other out. I know Swiss’s folks will send you a memo round my why when things change concerning taxes.

By THE MELO

February 27, 2009 3:30 PM | Link to this

Anyone trying to pack up all these boxes and skeletons in the blog closet? LOL

Check thoroughly in Truth’s room.There are 2 big boxes with used condoms and he forgot to throw that away.U and Blow can share that load Ared!

By DreamsMaterialize

February 27, 2009 3:30 PM | Link to this

Tazzee Craziness I know. That went nowhere fast though. lol You’re not selling yourself short. Keep doing you. Guys appreciate humility, trust me.

ARed Sad to say, she just turned 30. It happens in that age range a WHOLE lot more than you would think. I’m not mad though. Actually, I appreciated the honesty up front. It let me know on the first phone convo that there was no future. lol

By Raqi

February 27, 2009 3:32 PM | Link to this

Tazzee I know but…

By The Truth aka Faithful til the End

February 27, 2009 3:35 PM | Link to this

Dreams it was ok to hit said chick with a blunt object. We need to get back to $500 wedding rings and courthouse marriages. Then when things last a few years upgrade to a nice ceremony if thats what you need.

Y’all hear about the NBA borrowing money to cover team losses? Wow

By Raqi

February 27, 2009 3:36 PM | Link to this

Cee I don’t know if she got help but I do know she got greedy.

By Cemeeli

February 27, 2009 3:36 PM | Link to this

ARed is crazy!

By AmazonRed

February 27, 2009 3:36 PM | Link to this

Actually, I appreciated the honesty up front. It let me know on the first phone convo that there was no future. lol

Dreams, I hope she has a safe trip from the phone to the curb. LOL

The honesty thing is something I wrestle with. Not telling it, but I want to give folks credit for being honest, ya know? I hate knowing that I’m gonna rule you out for something because you were upfront about it.

Because if enough folks rule you out for telling the truth, wouldn’t you just start to lie?

sigh

By AmazonRed

February 27, 2009 3:39 PM | Link to this

ARed is crazy!

Cemeeli, I know, right? LOL

By Wise Diva

February 27, 2009 3:43 PM | Link to this

no, I haven’t Raqi, what was your question?

By AmazonRed

February 27, 2009 3:44 PM | Link to this

There are 2 big boxes with used condoms and he forgot to throw that away.U and Blow can share that load Ared!

*blank stare *

By Cemeeli

February 27, 2009 3:46 PM | Link to this

Ared I was rolling at you. silly.

Raqi She just needed to ask more questions. Everyone needs to know at least one CPA personally.

By Raqi

February 27, 2009 3:49 PM | Link to this

WiseDiva girl I don’t remember now. Don’t you know i’s pregnant and my hormone flipflop.

By AmazonRed

February 27, 2009 3:50 PM | Link to this

Ared I was rolling at you.

Cemeeli, I’m glad. :-)

By Raqi

February 27, 2009 3:53 PM | Link to this

Oh now I remember.

Diva are there going to be any added features on the new site? Emoticons? Strikethroughs? Easier linking?

By Wise Diva

February 27, 2009 3:54 PM | Link to this

Blow, not sure who JM is nor why THE AJC let him in, hmm, why so cryptic LOL

By Blow Me

February 27, 2009 3:58 PM | Link to this

@ WD….JMELLOT (the CFO) the big guy over there that signs checks @ the AJC. Him.

By i'm swiss

February 27, 2009 4:03 PM | Link to this

Sheesh… been stuck in f@#king meetings all day… too late to catch up. Man, I miss my old gig.

On topic: Wait… what is the topic again? Aw, f@#k it! It’s close enough to 5:00 — I need some Jack Daniels. This round’s on me — whatcha drinking, blog peeps?

By Cemeeli

February 27, 2009 4:09 PM | Link to this

ARed next time i’m at The Creek. You need to rell your long neck and let a chic know it’s you. Lol

Which will be tonight. Gotta take my out of town company to get some fish from TOF then onto a movie at ATL Movies.

By AmazonRed

February 27, 2009 4:14 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli What does “rell” my neck mean?

Are you loving or hating me today, cuz you know you’re never really clear. :-D

By Leggs

February 27, 2009 4:18 PM | Link to this

She means stretch your long neck out and holler at her.

By AmazonRed

February 27, 2009 4:20 PM | Link to this

Thank you Leggs, what do you think about the 2nd question. Love or hate? lol

By Wise Diva

February 27, 2009 4:26 PM | Link to this

I’ll have Maker’s Mark with a splash of coke please and thank you

By Cemeeli

February 27, 2009 4:26 PM | Link to this

ARed Lol, reel…reel.. gurl. You know i have “typing” problems.

give up the love

My job is mostly clicking/tapping on the laptop touchpad. This keyboard thing is extinct.

Luv u!

By AmazonRed

February 27, 2009 4:30 PM | Link to this

raises single eyebrow @ Cemeeli. Mm hmm. Have a good evening in the Creek girlfriend.

By Cemeeli

February 27, 2009 4:30 PM | Link to this

What Leggs said.

What happened at the track met?

By Cemeeli

February 27, 2009 4:37 PM | Link to this

Have a good evening in the Creek girlfriend.

My young cousins, and a few aunts are here. They are waiting on me to close the books right now. They are at Cumberland Mall getting nails done and shopping.

I really don’t care to hange at CC tonight. I was just there the other day. I can only handle small portions of “us”.

ATL Movie is probably gonna be packed by the time i get home/dressed/…

By Leggs

February 27, 2009 4:37 PM | Link to this

She’s loving you today (LOL).

Track meet went very well. She’s on an excellent track team this year. She came in 2nd in 400, and the team came in 3rd in the 4x4. First race, not bad. Another meet tomorrow. I’m putting on my track mom hat!

By Leggs

February 27, 2009 4:39 PM | Link to this

What’s even funnier is I read it as “reel” and not “rell”…that was funny ARed. You certainly won’t let that name slip by unnoticed. Thanks for my laugh! Eagle eyes, eagle eyes!

By Beautiful

February 27, 2009 4:41 PM | Link to this

have a safe and sunny w/e bloggers! it’s gonna be 72 degrees here tomorrow. muah

By Cemeeli

February 27, 2009 4:43 PM | Link to this

She’s loving you today (LOL).

See, Ared it’s love. even with “LOL”.

Was that out loud, Leggs? ha.

By AmazonRed

February 27, 2009 4:46 PM | Link to this

Well you know Leggs, I read “reel” as you know “reel.” I figured it was a typo of Feudian slip on Cemeeli’s part since I didn’t actually bring such a non word into the discussion.

By DreamsMaterialize

February 27, 2009 4:51 PM | Link to this

Truth I feel you bruh. That’s what my mom and dad did. They both got wedding bands. On their 10 year, he let her get whatever ring she wanted, no restrictions.

ARed She probably doesn’t feel the need to lie. There’s lots of dudes who would take her to whichever restaurant she wanted to go to on the first date. If she’s 30 and still verbalizing that thought, then it’s because there are enough dudes NOT ruling her out that it works for her.

By Leggs

February 27, 2009 4:51 PM | Link to this

Not really, but was laughing at ARed’s confusion with you.

By Cemeeli

February 27, 2009 4:52 PM | Link to this

ARed You have spunk! And silly too. I leave you alone cause we might bump heads on a normal day (but there isn’t a bad vibe towards you). And i respect and enjoy reading most of my sisters on here. really

Leggs You silly referencing ‘rell’. I just caught that.

By AmazonRed

February 27, 2009 4:56 PM | Link to this

Dreams, good point. lol

Leggs, I was never confused. Trust.

Cemeeli - Mmm hmm. lol

By Leggs

February 27, 2009 4:56 PM | Link to this

Goodnight everyone!

Even with this recession remember “The back of one door is the face of another.” ~Proverbs

Peace!

By Wise Diva

February 27, 2009 4:57 PM | Link to this

So long old url, it’s been real!

Have a great weekend everyone!

By Cemeeli

February 27, 2009 4:59 PM | Link to this

Leggs I must come across as snickering for real with sis. I hope she knows that i’m sincere.

Tell her to stop running to the free drink fountian they have at her job and PAY ATTENTION, to the blog! Lol

~ Ya’ll have a fabulous weekend sis.

I gotta fresh line-up, a fresh outfit, ‘bout to have the parking lot on smash…

chair spin

By AmazonRed

February 27, 2009 5:02 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli, you’re the one who even stated love/hate in the first place.

I pay attention. That’s why your own silliness doesn’t go unnoticed. cheesey grin

Have a great weekend everyone.

By Leggs

February 27, 2009 5:28 PM | Link to this

Ok, ARed, wasn’t sure.

By Jazzyone

March 6, 2009 1:49 PM | Link to this

Okay what is a BOGO coupon?? what ya doing up in here??

By Jazzyone

March 6, 2009 1:54 PM | Link to this

Coupons or not never had anyone do that when we went out, but would I care no, its all about the company for me. I don’t care if we go someplace and get two for one prices or the like. upscale or coupon night whatevs..doesn’t matter as long as you treat me like a lady and how I expect to be treated and we can do coupons nights as much as you want.. The more creative one is is what makes me check 4 ya twice.

By Jazzyone

March 6, 2009 2:01 PM | Link to this

has anyone been to the Chicago supper club off Peachtree road in the antiques distrcit?? where micks is the new Ventis