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<title>Adventures in Motherhood</title>
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<description>Five Miami Valley moms dish about the wonderful, often humorous and always challenging role of being a mother including: families, kids, babies, pregnancy and things to do with kids in the Dayton and Springfield area.

Lucy Baker (a copy editor at the Dayton Daily News) is a mom of three.

Michelle Everhart-Sullivan (editor of the CoxOhio community web sites) is a mom of one girl.

Michelle Fong (editor of local mom-to-mom site 937/513moms.com) is a mom of two.

Darci Jordan (a columnist for the Dayton Daily News and Springfield News-Sun) is the mom of two boys with a girl on the way

Jill Kelley (columnist and reporter for the Dayton Daily News) is a mom of two boys.</description>
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<dc:date>2009-07-02T18:03:38-05:00</dc:date>
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<title>Great deals: $5 pizza, free DVD rentals, swimsuits that last!</title>

    

    


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<description>We hosted a pool party for my daughter&amp;#8217;s 11th birthday, and the main attraction (other than the great weather and fun crowd) was the pizza. We had invited some family friends, along with a few of her classmates who would...</description>
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We hosted a pool party for my daughter&amp;#8217;s 11th birthday, and the main attraction (other than the great weather and fun crowd) was the pizza.

We had invited some family friends, along with a few of her classmates who would join her for a sleepover later that night, but we weren&amp;#8217;t sure how many would show up, so that made menu planning tricky.

We wanted to serve pizza &amp;#8212; everybody&amp;#8217;s favorite &amp;#8212; but hadn&amp;#8217;t decided on where to pick it up, until fate chose for us. A few hours before the party, I stopped into the local Family Video to rent some DVDs for the night, and right next door was a Little Caesars.

A sign in the window announced the chain&amp;#8217;s 50th anniversary deal &amp;#8212; a large, one-topping for $5. Could this be for real?

I hadn&amp;#8217;t had Little Caesars in a coon&amp;#8217;s age, so I thought, &amp;#8220;Why not?&amp;#8221; I popped into the shop and ordered nine pies &amp;#8212; yes, nine &amp;#8212; and had my pizza problem solved in like 4 minutes.

Hubby drove down and picked it up a little later, and what we got were 9 fine pizzas that were mostly devoured amidst a lot of &amp;#8220;Mmmmms.&amp;#8221;

For all that &amp;#8216;za, $45 was quite the bargain, I think. 

I added a big bowl of veggies and dip, and I was done &amp;#8220;cooking&amp;#8221; for the night.

Speaking of swimming, a few fellow swim team moms recently turned me on to an awesome practice suit for my little dolphin: Dolfin Uglies.

Not-so-ugly Uglies.

When the team moms first mentioned needing to order some &amp;#8220;Uglies&amp;#8221; for their girls, I replied, &amp;#8220;Huh?&amp;#8221; 

They weren&amp;#8217;t surprised at my ignorance &amp;#8212; I&amp;#8217;m kind of a noob compared to these swim team veterans.

After their glowing recommendations, I looked at the suits online and decided to take the plunge. They&amp;#8217;re polyester (instead of the usual nylon/spandex combo), fully lined and durable. 

Another plus for the swimsuits? The bright, fun patterns! With names like Spyra Gyra, Hippy Dippy and Pinkabelle, what&amp;#8217;s not to love? (Read all about how Uglies got their name here.)  

So my next stop was SwimOutlet.com, where the Uglies are a great buy at around $28.95. Both daughter and mom are totally pleased with the product. 

I also added a plain-Jane competition suit to my shopping cart for $19.95 &amp;#8212; about half of what many parents paid through the &amp;#8220;official&amp;#8221; team supplier Kast-A-Way.

The bargains don&amp;#8217;t stop there: The videos for the sleepover were FREE! thanks to daughter&amp;#8217;s stellar report card. Her five A&amp;#8217;s in core classes earned her certificates for five free rentals. I love having smart kids! ;)  

And I just love a good deal!

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<dc:subject>Great deals</dc:subject>
<dc:date>2009-07-02T18:03:38-04:00</dc:date>
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<title>Photo of the week: Like mother, like daughter</title>

    

    


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<description>This is something I vowed I would never do but I&amp;#8217;ve found it is too much fun not to. I&amp;#8217;m coordinating outfits with my daughter. It started out innocently enough when I realized I had similar colors on as my...</description>
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This is something I vowed I would never do but I&amp;#8217;ve found it is too much fun not to. I&amp;#8217;m coordinating outfits with my daughter. It started out innocently enough when I realized I had similar colors on as my daughter and now I&amp;#8217;m purposefully dressing us alike. 

The husband won&amp;#8217;t join in on the fun.

Mommy and baby out to brunch

I think it is hereditary. My mother dressed my sister and me alike for years. Now we have numerous matching outfits for my daughter and my niece. There is just something irresistible about it.

Do you try to match your kids? Do you dress your kids alike?

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<dc:subject>Photo of the Week</dc:subject>
<dc:date>2009-07-01T08:26:33-04:00</dc:date>
<dc:creator>meverhart@coxohio.com</dc:creator>
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<title>Motherhood: Moms Can Be Frugal Creatures</title>

    

    


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<description>We moms and moms-to-be are resourceful creatures. Hubby and I are expecting baby No. 3 this summer. Having rid our home of essentials such as baby bottles, infant clothes and more, I am finding we are less than prepared for...</description>
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We moms and moms-to-be are resourceful creatures.

Hubby and I are expecting baby No. 3 this summer. Having rid our home of essentials such as baby bottles, infant clothes and more, I am finding we are less than prepared for the arrival of this Bundle of Joy.

God bless friends and family who have offered hand-me-downs. 
Granted, it&amp;#8217;s a golden opportunity to unload their garage full of no-longer-needed items, but I&amp;#8217;m OK with that.

Not only did my closet quickly fill up with maternity clothes, but upon the &amp;#8220;it&amp;#8217;s a girl&amp;#8221; announcement, Baby&amp;#8217;s closet began to acquire lots of pink, frilly items of which many are like-new.

In fact, Baby Girl now officially has more shoes than I do.

I am no stranger to the game, nor are my boys.
My girlfriends who have sons younger than Nicholas &amp;#8212; soon to turn 4 &amp;#8212; will likely never have to buy clothes for their kids again.

&amp;#8220;These are for Carter,&amp;#8221; Nick will tell me when his pants are too tight.

In anticipation of a batch of hand-me-downs from Aunt Patti, I plow through dressers and closets frequently unloading too-small clothes on appreciative mothers.

Noah thinks it&amp;#8217;s fantastic when Aunt Patti sends home a bag full of clothes that no longer fit the rapidly growing Cousin Erik.
Since Erik once wore it, it must be a &amp;#8220;cool&amp;#8221; shirt.

When the clothes migrate into Nick&amp;#8217;s dresser, he loves it because it was Noah&amp;#8217;s. (Hmm &amp;#133; I wonder how long this will last?)
For now, this works well for Daddy and I, who aren&amp;#8217;t being coerced into buying preschooler-Polo.

Considering how fast children grow, most of the items are in great condition &amp;#8212; other than boys shoes, which suffer some serious abuse.

Of course, when others&amp;#8217; closets are filled to capacity, there are places such as the Pregnancy Resource Center, the Mercy Parent Infant Center and Hannah&amp;#8217;s Treasure Chest that distribute children&amp;#8217;s items to families in need.

There is always a need and always a use for children&amp;#8217;s items &amp;#8212; clothes, toys, books, gear, food, formula, diapers, bottles and more.

Garage sales aren&amp;#8217;t a bad place to load up on kid-gear, either. 
Not to mention, garage sales are a great place to teach little ones the value of their piggy-bank change.

Of course, &amp;#8220;new&amp;#8221; stuff is fun, too, even for parents (more fun if it&amp;#8217;s on clearance).

But, if children express as much joy and contentment with gently used items, why rain on their parade? 

Contact this reporter at (937) 328-0356 or dmjordan@coxohio.com.

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<dc:subject>Motherhood Column</dc:subject>
<dc:date>2009-06-30T09:40:59-04:00</dc:date>
<dc:creator>dmjordan@coxohio.com</dc:creator>
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<title>No, my daughter is not a boy</title>

    

    


<link>http://www.daytondailynews.com/blogs/content/shared-gen/blogs/dayton/mommy/entries/2009/06/29/no_my_daughter.html</link>
<description>This is a public service announcement to anyone who might run into me when I&amp;#8217;m out with my daughter. If you are unsure whether I am carrying a boy or girl on my hip, look for some clues. Yes, she...</description>
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This is a public service announcement to anyone who might run into me when I&amp;#8217;m out with my daughter.

If you are unsure whether I am carrying a boy or girl on my hip, look for some clues. Yes, she might be wearing blue but take a second to look closer. Is she wearing a blue dress? Does she have pink and orange flowers on her shirt and a skirt? Then chances are she is not a he.

If you are still confused by the dress or flowers, how about just commenting on the fact that I have a cute kid and not say &amp;#8220;Oh your little boy is so pretty.&amp;#8221;

I understand that most children under the age of one could easily be confused for one gender or the other. This is why I don&amp;#8217;t dress her in &amp;#8220;Bob the Builder&amp;#8221; outfits or with a shirt that has a dinosaur on it and instead opt for more traditionally feminine clothing that is pink or purple or a dress.

Still some people find it confusing. I&amp;#8217;ve had three people think that my daughter is a boy. One time she was in head-to-toe purple, another she had on a light blue dress and another when she had a flowered skirt on with a large flower on her shirt.

My husband tells my I should say &amp;#8220;Yes, pink is his favorite color&amp;#8221; but I usually gently correct them because, after all, they are kind enough to come talk to her. It still annoys me though.

Besides does she really look like a boy to you?

Have you had this problem? What do you say?

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<dc:subject>Funny stories</dc:subject>
<dc:date>2009-06-29T08:24:27-04:00</dc:date>
<dc:creator>meverhart@coxohio.com</dc:creator>
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<title>Help! My daughter is socially unacceptable</title>

    

    


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<description>It was a perfect moment. I gazed adoringly at my daughter walking down the aisle during her aunt&amp;#8217;s wedding on Saturday. She looked absolutely beautiful in that satin, poofy dress. Her long, dark hair was piled on top of her...</description>
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It was a perfect moment.

I gazed adoringly at my daughter walking down the aisle during her aunt&amp;#8217;s wedding on Saturday. She looked absolutely beautiful in that satin, poofy dress. Her long, dark hair was piled on top of her head in little ringlet curls and framed by an ivory wreath of flowers. She was carrying a bouquet of bright flowers. She was an absolute princess.

That beautiful moment was quickly ruined when she started digging for gold the very second she took her seat.

&amp;#8220;Stop picking your nose! Here&amp;#8217;s a tissue,&amp;#8221; I whispered (quite loudly).

My request was promptly ignored.

Auggghhh!

Sometimes my 4-year-old is really Daddy&amp;#8217;s girl (well, these are clearly not behaviors she learned from me). She seems to always be picking something, whether it&amp;#8217;s her nose or her seat (and I&amp;#8217;m not talking about the kind of seat you sit in). 

It can be so embarrassing at times &amp;#8230; particularly during a wedding in front of hundreds of people!

How can you stop your children&amp;#8217;s bad habits like this one? 

Here are four recommendations on curbing nose-picking straight from the experts at Babycenter.com.

1. Bite your tongue. No matter how embarrassed you are by this habit (and of course you are embarrassed), don&amp;#8217;t say anything. Nagging or punishing her won&amp;#8217;t help, because she probably doesn&amp;#8217;t realize she&amp;#8217;s doing it, and you could turn into a power struggle.

2. Keep her fingers occupied. If you can identify picking patterns &amp;#8212; such as while watching television, for example &amp;#8212; try giving her something to do with her fingers such as a crayon and a piece of paper or a toy to hold. Teaching her to blow her nose may also help.

3. Check things out. If your child is exploring her nose so intensely that she&amp;#8217;s hurting herself &amp;#8212; she&amp;#8217;s drawing blood &amp;#8212; or if the habit seems to be one of many nervous behaviors (sucking her thumb, biting her nails, for example), you&amp;#8217;ll probably want to consult your pediatrician.

4. Wait and hope. As your tot gets older and busier, chances are her fingers will stay away from her nose of their own accord. If not, and she keeps up the nose picking until she goes off to school, at some point some other child will say, &amp;#8220;Ewww, she&amp;#8217;s picking her nose,&amp;#8221; and she&amp;#8217;ll suddenly be very motivated to stop. 

Now it&amp;#8217;s your turn. Do your children have bad habits? What are they and how do you work with your children to break them?

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<dc:subject>Funny stories</dc:subject>
<dc:date>2009-06-25T18:00:36-04:00</dc:date>
<dc:creator>mfong@coxohio.com</dc:creator>
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<title>Cheat sheet for life&apos;s biggest days would come in handy</title>

    

    


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<description>A friend of mine at work and his wife just had a baby &amp;#8212; their first &amp;#8212; and the days leading up to the big event sparked many lunchtime conversations filled with stories from those of us who have been...</description>
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A friend of mine at work and his wife just had a baby &amp;#8212; their first &amp;#8212; and the days leading up to the big event sparked many lunchtime conversations filled with stories from those of us who have been down that road before.

We talked about which of our babies came into the world like runaway freight trains, and which were kind to their mothers.

We talked about the doctors who erroneously dismissed early labor pains with, &amp;#8220;First babies take a long time,&amp;#8221; and those docs who convinced nervous new daddies to cut the umbilical cord.

It reminded me how much more enjoyable it is to look back on these events, compared to wondering how (or if) they will play out.

And it makes me wish that there was an optional cheat sheet available that would list the days these life milestones would occur. 

Such as:

The day you meet the love of your life: Sure, that day would be anxious, and everyone who crosses your path would get undue scrutiny. But it would make the other days of your single life more enjoyable.

The day you figure out what your career should be: Many of us second-guess what we can and should do with our lives. It would be freeing to know, &amp;#8220;Hey, this is it.&amp;#8221;

Your wedding day: This one might work better with a ballpark figure &amp;#8212; say within the year &amp;#8212; but it would be nice to know just the same. Wanting to know this might be more of a girl thing, since some of us anticipate the day for years.

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<dc:subject>Mother&apos;s Daze columns</dc:subject>
<dc:date>2009-06-25T06:09:09-04:00</dc:date>
<dc:creator>jikelley@coxohio.com</dc:creator>
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<title>It&apos;s just that love of the game</title>

    

    


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I have written about my kids&amp;#8217; passion for sports many times, but this picture seems to say it all.

Game face

This was taken a few years ago when my older son turned 7. He and his little brother went through a phase where they would invent their own teams and leagues, and then compete against each other.

For the older one&amp;#8217;s birthday in 2006, we surprised him by getting this &amp;#8220;jersey&amp;#8221; made for his team &amp;#8212; the Dangle City Fireballs.

He liked it.

These days, most of the kids&amp;#8217; matches involve real teams, but they still dabble in their old throwback leagues occasionally. Sometimes, they even pull their parents in.

In fact, the Ohio Bears are set to take on the Kettering Sharks in a family soccer game next week.

And even though we won&amp;#8217;t have cool jerseys like this, I bet I will still see a little boy or two with this same expression.

It&amp;#8217;s just that love of the game.

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<dc:subject>Photo of the Week</dc:subject>
<dc:date>2009-06-24T07:52:51-04:00</dc:date>
<dc:creator>jikelley@coxohio.com</dc:creator>
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<title>Motherhood: &quot;Tox Bops&quot; Treasure Hunting</title>

    

    


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<description>Sometime before my oldest son began attending preschool, a friend visiting our home was appalled to find empty cardboard food boxes in our trash cans. I questioned her sanity when she began yanking them out of the garbage bags. &amp;#8220;Niki...</description>
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Sometime before my oldest son began attending preschool, a friend visiting our home was appalled to find empty cardboard food boxes in our trash cans.
I questioned her sanity when she began yanking them out of the garbage bags.

&amp;#8220;Niki &amp;#8230; what are you doing?&amp;#8221; She couldn&amp;#8217;t be that hungry for a dried out fruit roll-up.

&amp;#8220;You can&amp;#8217;t throw these away, they have Box Tops on them!&amp;#8221; she replied.

&amp;#8220;Of course they do, they are boxes and most of the time they have tops,&amp;#8221; I was thinking as she began ripping the lids off of them.

Little did I know I was throwing away tiny treasures on each box that are quite precious to many schools &amp;#8212; Box Tops for Education.

Valued at a whopping 10-cents each, my son&amp;#8217;s school has earned more than $14,000 since 2002.
Wow. That loose change really does add up.

Box Tops &amp;#8212; and Campbell&amp;#8217;s Labels For Education &amp;#8212; are found on many products I didn&amp;#8217;t realize we were purchasing. 
Not long ago, we had no reason to pay attention to the little dotted squares on our Cheerios and Goldfish.

Now, we do.
We have early school-age children and for Noah, finding a &amp;#8220;Tox Bop&amp;#8221; is like finding cold hard cash.
He has a much keener eye for these things than I even do &amp;#8212; catching the bonus products immediately.

&amp;#8220;Mom! This one has two Tox Bops!&amp;#8221;

In the grocery store fruit snack isle, Noah even opts to select (one of the few things he gets to choose) the Scooby-Doo fruit snacks over the John Deere ones because they have a Box Top.
And I&amp;#8217;m OK with paying the few extra cents if need be &amp;#8212; after all, it&amp;#8217;s for the good of his school.

In 2005, Box Tops expanded to products outside the General Mills product line, and in 2008 reached the $250 million mark nationwide. Obviously, I&amp;#8217;m not the only parent who keeps a pair of scissors handy in the kitchen.

The grandparents are now in on the action, too, scanning their food purchases for those valuable little tokens.

Each school is responsible for redeeming their accumulated Box Tops and they receive payment twice each school year.
Earnings are spent on supplies and necessities for the school.
Not a bad little program to be a part of when many of our schools are struggling.

With one child entering kindergarten, one in preschool and one on the way, I will have to keep those scissors sharp &amp;#8212; we will be cutting out Box Tops and Labels for Education for several more years.

Contact this reporter at (937) 328-0356 or dmjordan@coxohio.com.

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<dc:subject>Motherhood Column</dc:subject>
<dc:date>2009-06-23T09:52:47-04:00</dc:date>
<dc:creator>dmjordan@coxohio.com</dc:creator>
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<title>Can&apos;t we all just get along, moms?</title>

    

    


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<description>I had no idea how large the world of mom bloggers really was until I became a mom. It seems like anyone who has a kid is blogging about it. It is wonderful in many ways. We get to share...</description>
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I had no idea how large the world of mom bloggers really was until I became a mom. It seems like anyone who has a kid is blogging about it.

It is wonderful in many ways. We get to share our joys and accomplishments with others who have similar experiences. We get to say &amp;#8220;I&amp;#8217;m having a bad day and don&amp;#8217;t feel like a good mother&amp;#8221; and 20 moms will write to say that they too have bad days and that we are not alone in all of this.

But there are other ways that this can backfire and degrade into a middle school cat fight complete with hair pulling and name calling. The latest argument erupted last week when a WOHM (work outside the home mom) mother wrote an entry that said it is harder for her than any WAHM (work at home mom). She claims that WOHM really have it tough because they have to deal with daycare and being away from the kiddos and travel, etc. while WAHM can take their MacBooks to Starbucks to get their work done.

I am not going to get into who has the tougher life. We all have our burdens whether we work outside the home, work inside the home or stay at home with our kids, which is still work.

But I do want to encourage mothers to support each other. We do no good by tearing each other down. Women have enough working against them, we don&amp;#8217;t need help from each other.

Does it make your situation any better when you tell someone that they have it so easy? I&amp;#8217;m going to say no.

We all need to vent but there is no reason to attack.

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<dc:date>2009-06-22T08:52:34-04:00</dc:date>
<dc:creator>meverhart@coxohio.com</dc:creator>
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<title>Why Father&apos;s Day doesn&apos;t get the same love as Mother&apos;s Day</title>

    

    


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I was reading a story on CNN this week about a dad who said he feels cheated on Father&amp;#8217;s Day.

He writes that the holiday is treated as an afterthought compared to the outpouring of love and goodies that comes with its companion holiday, Mother&amp;#8217;s Day.

And I would have to agree with him. Not that it should be that way, mind you &amp;#8212; but that it is.

Every family is different but, in many of them, the moms are the ones who get the majority of the hugs and kisses, the higher stack of warm and fuzzy gifts and the more visible declarations of adoration &amp;#8212; not only on Mother&amp;#8217;s Day, but every day.

Why? There are many pillars that hold up this long-standing tradition; here are a few:

Moms get more kisses and presents because they are more open to them.

This may be different in a house with multiple daughters; but, in my house full of boys, I am involved in about 92 percent of the kisses given and received.

When my sons ask for something that is a little bit of a stretch (like to stay up late) and I agree, I will sometimes ask for a payment of two kisses, while tilting and tapping my cheek expectantly.

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The annual Father&amp;#8217;s Day Dilemma:

A new grill? Another tie? A day of peace and quiet? (That last one was a joke.)

What do you plan to get for the man in your kid&amp;#8217;s life? Conversely, what do you dads really want?

I reach into my mommy blog e-mail bag and pull out a sampling of suggestions from marketing mavens. In their own words:

&amp;#8212; Father&amp;#8217;s Day is quickly approaching, and you know just as well as I do that
while dad may smile and say thanks for every tie or new polo shirt he gets,
those gifts are outdated. &amp;#8230; Perfect for every dad, the RealRyder ABF8 is the first
non-stationary spin/training bike that mimics an outdoor ride by tilting,
turning and twisting while you ride, adding a whole new dynamic to indoor
fitness and winter training. Only $1,995. (This one won&amp;#8217;t work for us. Hubby would rather take a real bike for a real ride with his real kids. For free.)

&amp;#8212; SKIL, Lowe&amp;#8217;s and Worlds of Discovery Theme Parks have partnered to create a
Father&amp;#8217;s Day parent-child project contest for the chance to win an all-expenses paid family vacation and other exciting prizes. Outdoor projects
are available for parents to do with their children, starting at age 4.
Simply build the project together and submit in-action photos or videos
along with your entry form on the contest Web site! (My Hubby would definitely NOT enjoy a pressure-filled afternoon featuring power tools and ramped-up kids &amp;#8212; especially with me taking video. That&amp;#8217;s just not his idea of fun.)

&amp;#8212; &amp;#8220;Being Dad&amp;#8221; DVD &amp;#8212; $29.99: &amp;#8220;Being Dad&amp;#8221; features
dozens of new dads from all over the country who share the thoughts, fears,
concerns and joys they experienced from the first time they heard, &amp;#8220;Honey,
I&amp;#8217;m pregnant!&amp;#8221; through the first time they held their newborn child. It&amp;#8217;s an
invaluable tool to better understand one&amp;#8217;s mate and what she&amp;#8217;s going through
during pregnancy so they can be supportive and prepared as they face
everything from morning sickness, cravings and mood swings to finances,
sex &amp;#8230; and what NOT to say to your spouse. (Something tells me this DVD wouldn&amp;#8217;t be high on Hubby&amp;#8217;s list either. Maybe if the testimonials were interspersed with historical Super Bowl highlights?)

&amp;#8212; Every dad has a man cave at home &amp;#8212; the place you most likely will find him
when he wants to relax. This Father&amp;#8217;s Day, Walmart is offering savings for
every dad&amp;#8217;s man cave whether it&amp;#8217;s the game room, living room, home office,
garage and backyard. Walmart&amp;#8217;s Father&amp;#8217;s Day
savings (available in-stores through June 20) include a $128 Magnavox
Blu-ray Disc player, select Blu-ray movies two-for-$20, new video game
bundles, and handy tools. (We&amp;#8217;re getting warmer. This is the closest thing to real gifts for a real dad that I&amp;#8217;ve seen, and the &amp;#8220;man cave&amp;#8221; hook really reeled me in.)

So &amp;#8230; for my own man, this is what I did:

(SPOILER ALERT!! Attention, Hubby: Stop reading here!)

I mean it, TB: STOP READING!

First I sought the expert advice of my Facebook friends, and I did get one workable suggestion: a Pittsburgh Penguins jersey (thanks, Jordan). Hubby is crazy about the 2009 Stanley Cup Champions &amp;#8212; read it and weep, Red Wings fans! But instead of a jersey, which he wouldn&amp;#8217;t wear too often except for the occasional trip to the sports bar, I found a polo shirt online at SportStation.com with an embroidered Penguins logo, $42.50. Perfect for the casual summer dress code at his new job. (And yes, I ignored the &amp;#8220;polos are an outdated gift&amp;#8221; snear from the makers of the RealRyder ABF8. Snobs ;).

To carry the &amp;#8220;Yay! You&amp;#8217;re Employed Again!&amp;#8221; theme further, I found him a leather business card holder at the aforementioned Walmart for the bargain-basement price of $3.97. 

I also added a shoeshine kit from my favorite store, the Dollar Tree. And guess how much it cost? That&amp;#8217;s right, $1.

One last prize, found at CafePress.com: a $4 sticker bearing the snarky phrase &amp;#8220;Runs With Scissors&amp;#8221; &amp;#8212; very apropos because in his new role with the Dayton Area Chamber of Commerce, he&amp;#8217;s the one who gets to schlep the &amp;#8220;Big Scissors&amp;#8221; to ribbon-cuttings. I love theme shopping! :) 

What are you getting for the dad in your life? Any dads out there want to share their wish lists? 

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<dc:date>2009-06-17T04:46:21-04:00</dc:date>
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<description>By Darci Jordan Do boys ever really grow up? Almost six years into raising two boys who act like their father &amp;#8212; and mine &amp;#8212; I am going to have to say, &amp;#8220;No. Not really.&amp;#8221; They all possess some kind...</description>
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By Darci Jordan

Do boys ever really grow up?

Almost six years into raising two boys who act like their father &amp;#8212; and mine &amp;#8212; I am going to have to say, &amp;#8220;No. Not really.&amp;#8221;

They all possess some kind of similar childish trait no matter how old they are.

Women aren&amp;#8217;t entirely innocent. I admit to still enjoying coloring and mac-and-cheese.

However, my sons, just like my &amp;#8220;adult&amp;#8221; husband, father, brother and uncles, think bodily functions are hysterical, like being dirty and find creepy crawlers fascinating. 

OK, I&amp;#8217;m lying about the creepy crawlers. My sons actually prefer squashing them.

But, my grandfather &amp;#8212; and his lightning-fast reflexes &amp;#8212; surprised us all recently by regressing back to not only childhood age, but agility, too.

While standing near the creekbed in back of our home one evening, a little snake popped out of a brush pile.

Great-grandpa, aka &amp;#8220;GG&amp;#8221; &amp;#8212; who is, let&amp;#8217;s just say, an &amp;#8220;older child&amp;#8221; &amp;#8212; swooped down like a bat and snatched the snake off the ground before anyone could blink.

Wow!

My sons began hollering into the house &amp;#8220;GG got a snake! GG got a snake!&amp;#8221;

I peered out the window to see the male genre of our family all standing around GG with goofy grins on their faces.

Overcome with the willies, I immediately began worrying about snake cooties.

&amp;#8220;Wash your hands! Stay back!&amp;#8221;

Toads I can handle. We acquire a family of them in our yard every year.

Snakes freak me out. I don&amp;#8217;t want to know they are hiding out so close to my house.

The little snake was obviously terrified and eager to slither away from the growing crowd of &amp;#8220;boys.&amp;#8221;

Tough as they were acting, when GG released the belly-slider back to the wild, the boys all retreated up the creek bank as quickly as GG had snatched up the snake.

They washed their hands and some secretly shook off the willies, but GG still reins as the &amp;#8220;coolest kid&amp;#8221; in the family.

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Mommy bloggers recently began declaring themselves bad mothers, proclaiming that bad is the new good.

They aren&amp;#8217;t being arrested for crimes and their children aren&amp;#8217;t neglected. They are just going against what society and many parenting books deem &amp;#8220;good mothers.&amp;#8221;

One blogger admits to a few crimes against motherhood including using disposable diapers, letting her children watch television too much and allowing them to eat cookies for breakfast.

Another mother says she turns on autopilot most days and raises her children the best she knows how.

I still consider myself a rookie to motherhood. My daughter will turn a year old in a about a month and every day it seems like we run into something new - like why does she keep throwing herself backward whenever she doesn&amp;#8217;t get her way and then cry harder when she hits her head on the nearest object?

All of that aside I&amp;#8217;m trying to be the best mother I can be, but I am in no way perfect.

I&amp;#8217;m sure there will be days when I let me her watch too much television so I can get something done around the house. She might have to settle for fast food once in awhile. She will most likely go to public schools.

Parenthood doesn&amp;#8217;t fit any guidelines. The books and experts can give us an idea of what to expect but I&amp;#8217;ve never read a book that told me what to do when poo ends up on the ceiling. 

I do know that my daughter is loved, more than I thought even possible.

I don&amp;#8217;t love her less if I give her a Cheeto. I don&amp;#8217;t love her less if I let her nap in my arms instead of her crib. I don&amp;#8217;t love her less if I look the other way when her father buys her a Happy Meal.

In all that can happen in a day with children, I think the best any of us can hope for is to still love our children, be thankful that they are healthy and laugh about any mishaps along the way.

So do you consider yourself a good or a bad mother?

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Cure those summertime blues with these kid-friendly weekend events:

Rubber Duck Regatta

Where: RiverScape MetroPark, 111 E. Monument Ave., Dayton

When: Friday, June 12 from 11:30 a.m. to 12:30 p.m.

What to expect: See 15,000 bright yellow rubber ducks in the Great Miami River during United Rehabilitation Services sixth annual event, plus food and other activities. 

Admission: Free, but you can sponsor a duck for $5 per duck, plus other duck packages available. Proceeds from the duck sales will benefit United Rehabilitation Services.

More info: Call (937) 235-DUCK or visit www.ursdayton.org

Froggie Frolic 

Where: Carriage Hill Metropark, 7800 E. Shull Road, Huber Heights

When: Saturday, June 13 from 10-11:30 a.m.

What to expect: Learn all about these long-jumping amphibians, make a craft and go on a frog hunt. Ideal for elementary-school aged children.

Admission: Free. No reservations required.

More info: Call (937) 278-2623 or visit www.metroparks.org/

St. Christopher Festival

Where: St. Christopher Catholic Church, 435 E. National Road, Vandalia. 

When: 6 p.m.-midnight June 12, 1 p.m.-midnight June 13, noon-7 p.m. June 14

What to expect: The festival offers carnival rides, games, music, bingo, raffles, a garage sale, food, fun and more.

Admission: Admission free, but bring money for food, rides and games.

More info: (937) 898-3542 or www.stchristopheronline.com/festival

Haunted House this weekend only


Where: 1213 Harshman Road, Riverside, near The National Museum of the United States Air Force

When: Dusk until midnight Friday and Saturday, June 12-13

What to expect: Now this one is definitely not for the little ones. But if you have a teen who loves a good haunting, take advantage of this Halloween in June event. The Riverside Jaycees, who host a haunted house every fall, will present a Mid-Summer Nights Scream Haunted Castle of Carnage.

Admission: $10

More info: Call (937) 254-2576 or visit www.riversidejaycees.org


Preteen self-esteem workshop

Where: Bellbrook SugarCreek Community Center, 2751 Washington Mill Road

When: 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. Sunday, June 14

What to expect: Local Girl Scouts have put together a workshop promoting girls to &amp;#8220;Be Youtiful&amp;#8221; in efforts to gain a Gold Award, the highest achievement a 15- to 17-year-old Girl Scout can earn. The workshop is designed to build self-esteem in preteen girls from sixth to eighth grade.

Admission: Registration is $5

More information: Send an email to beyoutiful614@aol.com

Got more ideas? Share &amp;#8216;em here. If you know of any upcoming events we should highlight, email mfong@coxohio.com

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<description>One week, films about puberty; the next week, beer. Life does move fast. My husband said to me the other day, &amp;#8220;I think I am going to lay off the beer for a while,&amp;#8221; and then he nodded toward our...</description>
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One week, films about puberty; the next week, beer. Life does move fast.

My husband said to me the other day, &amp;#8220;I think I am going to lay off the beer for a while,&amp;#8221; and then he nodded toward our 10-year-old son in the other room. &amp;#8220;Somebody&amp;#8217;s showing a little too much interest in it.&amp;#8221;

Me and my brother, learning how not to smoke, circa 1976

At first, I felt the need to remind my husband that he should do what he wants, since there are separate rules for kids and adults for good reason.

Besides, I thought, he is just a curious young kid, and my husband&amp;#8217;s drinking is moderate at most.

But then I started mulling over some of the recent comments from the shorter male; the one who still smells of fourth grade. I thought about how he has mentioned a few times when we were out at restaurants that the beer &amp;#8220;looked good&amp;#8221; and asked questions about the various brands.

And I remembered his love and subsequent recounting to anyone who would listen of the many humorous beer commercials that heavily punctuate the innumerable sports shows he watches.

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