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<title>VIDEO: The Alexis Arguello I Remember So Well</title>

    

    


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It remains one of the greatest fights in boxing history. It featured two champions who brought out each other&amp;#8217;s best for 13 punishing rounds and ended with a brutal barrage no one will forget.

It was one time I forgot I was a writer and reacted as a friend.

That&amp;#8217;s how I remember Nov. 12, 1982, when lightweight champion Alexis Arguello met unbeaten junior welterweight champ Aaron Pryor in front of a raucous crowd of 23,800 on a warm night filled with salsa music and a big-fight edginess that swirled through the Orange Bowl.

As a Miami columnist, I had covered both fighters extensively leading up to the bout and had become especially close with Arguello, who mixed gentlemanly ways outside the ring with an executioner&amp;#8217;s precision inside the ropes.

In his Hall of Fame career, he would win 82 of 90 fights, claim world titles at three different weights &amp;#8212; he beat Ruben Olivares for the featherweight crown in 1974, Alfredo Escalera for the super featherweight title (also known as junior lightweight) in 1978 and Jim Watt for the lightweight championship in 1981 &amp;#8212; and he&amp;#8217;d get recognition as the greatest junior lightweight of the 20th century.

Over the years I covered several of his fights around the country, visited him at his Gables-by-the-Sea home &amp;#8212; I spent Christmas Eve with him once when his wife left him &amp;#8212; and went out fishing on his yacht, The Champ.

When he came to a function in Wilmington a dozen years ago, he told me a chilling tale, one that supposedly came to fruition two days ago in his native Nicaragua, where &amp;#8212; at age 57 &amp;#8212; he died of a gunshot wound to the chest. The initial report is suicide.

That night at the Orange Bowl, I was sitting ringside, right up against the canvas apron. The fight was a war and in the 13th round Arguello stunned Pryor with a withering right.

After drinking from a bottle handed to him between rounds by controversial trainer Panama Lewis, a reinvigorated Pryor landed 20 straight punches in Round 14 before the referee stopped the fight as the defenseless Arguello melted to the canvas, two feet in front of me.

People rushed to Arguello, whose eyes rolled back as he lay motionless for over four minutes. That&amp;#8217;s when I grabbed the bottom ring rope and pulled myself closer, heartsick by what had just happened.

I remember his assistant trainer Don Kahn talking to him: &amp;#8220;Alexis, hold on, you&amp;#8217;ll be all right.&amp;#8221;

The fight took a lot out of each boxer and neither was quite the same after, though Pryor would knock out Arguello again 10 months later.

After boxing, their lives sometimes paralleled each other. 

They were both children of extreme poverty. Arguello&amp;#8217;s family was so poor it made him quit school at age nine and work on a dairy farm. By 13, he&amp;#8217;d hitchhiked to Canada and worked two jobs, which enabled him to give his parents $1.000 the following year. Within three years he was fighting as a pro.

Thanks to boxing, Arguello &amp;#8212; like Pryor  &amp;#8212; made fortunes&amp;#8230;and then lost them. He battled drugs and at times he struggled with family issues.

Over the years, he and Pryor became friends &amp;#8212; at heart, Pryor is a good man, too &amp;#8212; and whether they wanted it to be such or not, the two realized what the other had and what it meant to them.  

Arguello, for all his historic accomplishment, knew that Pryor was the man who conquered him twice. Pryor knows that for all his triumph, Arguello was still the man embraced and adored by the crowds. 

Each man had a piece of the other, a piece that helped them be complete.

Last year Arguello &amp;#8212; after Pryor and his wife campaigned for him &amp;#8212; was elected mayor of Managua.

That night in Wilmington, he quietly told me how, in 1984 &amp;#8212; with life spiraling downward &amp;#8212; he had snapped while out on his boat with his young son A.J. and had put a gun to his own head.

His sobbing son begged him not to kill himself and Arguello said he came to his senses: &amp;#8220;I realized I had a lot to live for.&amp;#8221;

If reports are true, that realization now escaped him.

And while Don Kahn&amp;#8217;s words from that warm Orange Bowl night &amp;#8212; &amp;#8220;Hold on, you&amp;#8217;ll be all right,&amp;#8221; &amp;#8212; have evaporated, too, one thing has not.

I&amp;#8217;m again heartsick by what&amp;#8217;s happened to my friend.



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<title>Did Derrick Brown Cost Himself Millions?</title>

    

    


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<![CDATA[Derrick Brown

So did Derrick Brown cost himself millions by jumping into the NBA draft last week rather than playing his final season at Xavier and possibly upping his profile, his draft status and his bank account?

That question has been volleyed back and forth the past five days, especially down in Cincinnati &#8212;   &#8220;Brown, Meeks make big mistakes by eschewing final year of eligibility&#8221; read a headline in the Cincinnati Enquirer &#8212; since the Chaminade Julienne grad was taken in the second round, the 40th pick overall, by the Charlotte Bobcats.  

&gt;&nbsp;Photos: Derrick Brown through the years

I can see Brown&#8217;s reasons for leaving: He&#8217;s already graduated and he sat out a red-shirt year for the Muskies; a new coach is coming in; there&#8217;s always the possibility of injury; next year&#8217;s draft will be more loaded with talent; and, of course, he had plenty of people telling him he would be a first-round pick.

That said, I still think he should have stayed. I said it before the draft.

Although Xavier&#8217;s scheme usually isn&#8217;t built to make one guy the star &#8212; at least not since David West &#8212; I think Brown could have dominated in the Atlantic 10 this coming season, especially if new coach Chris Mack could build a fire, a sense or urgency, in him for every half of every game.

And I think had Brown known last week what he knows now, he would have stayed at Xavier. In fact, his camp said so in the weeks leading up to the draft. To paraphrase: &#8220;If Derrick&#8217;s going to end up in the second round, he&#8217;ll stay in school.&#8221;

The flip side is that he&#8217;ll be playing alongside better players and be learning from Larry Brown. He certainly should make the Bobcats and that could position himself for his next contract.

As for that aforementioned Enquirer headline, it was above an item in a Sunday column by Richard Skinner, who wrote:

&#8220;They (Brown and Kentucky&#8217;s Jodie Meeks) certainly couldn&#8217;t have done much worse than being picked in the second round. Both do have great opportunities to make the teams that drafted them, but both left guaranteed millions behind by not being picked in the first round where each could have been selected next year.&#8221;

So what kind of money are we talking about here?

This isn&#8217;t the NFL &#8212; the NBA has a rookie salary scale &#8212; so the loss isn&#8217;t as drastic by not being a first-rounder. But it&#8217;s still a sizable difference of cash when you end up in the second round.

Last year, for example, Doug Lewis made $442,114 &#8212; the league minimum &#8212; from the New Jersey Nets as the 40th pick in the draft.

The 15th overall pick in 2008, Phoenix&#8217;s Robin Lopez, was slated for a three-year deal worth $5.24 million. The 25th pick, Portland&#8217;s Nicolas Batum, was set for a three-year deal worth $3.36 million.  

The first pick in the draft, Derrick Rose signed a contract that gave him a contract worth a guaranteed $10,007,280 for two seasons and a team option at $5,546,160 for a third season.

(On a side note, in the NFL where there is no set scale, the top pick in the 2008 draft, Jake Long, agreed to a five-year, $57.75 million deal with the Miami Dolphins.)

In the NBA, the real money comes with the second and third contracts. Remember almost a decade ago, the second contract of Wright State&#8217;s Vitaly Potapenko &#8212; who had been a first-round pick &#8212;  was worth $36 million for six years. 

All this said, Brown just needs to remember guys like this: Manu Ginobli, Michael Redd, Carlos Boozer, Gilbert Arenas, Rashard Lewis, Cedric Ceballos, Dennis Rodman, Mark Price, Jerome Kersey and Jeff Hornacek.

They were all second-round picks. They all did have or are having good (some great)  NBA careers and they became multi-millionaires doing so.
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<title>COLUMN: Mini Sports Museum at Hickory Bar-B-Q</title>

    

    


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Eager to share the collection she had put together over the past few months, she led the way &amp;#8212; enthusiastically telling one story after another &amp;#8212; toward the back dining room, now The Sports Room, to show you part of what Don Donoher called  &amp;#8220;a little mini-museum.&amp;#8221;

She never made it that far.

Just before the doorway &amp;#8212; hanging on the wall above the corner booth in the main dining area of Hickory Bar-B-Q &amp;#8212; her eye caught the artist&amp;#8217;s rendering of an incredible scene at the Montgomery County Fairgrounds.

Margo Fisher kicked off her shoes, hopped up into the booth and soon was detailing the spectacle like some earnest schoolgirl with a science project:

&amp;#8220;This was the day Goldsmith Maid, the most famous horse in America, came to the Fairgrounds to try to break the world (trotting) record. Look at all those people. There was a grandstand on one side for men. On the other, for women. The infield&amp;#8217;s full, the whole track is surrounded by a crowd. One newspaper report said there were 75,000 people. Imagine that.&amp;#8221;

It was October 2, 1874 and it&amp;#8217;s doubtful Dayton ever has had a single sporting day quite like it.

City officials issued a traffic flow pattern to get to the new fairgrounds which, back then, were on the outskirts of town. Wagons and buggies going to the track from downtown had to take Main Street. Those returning had to come up Warren Street.

Passenger trains coming to Dayton were jammed. According to one newspaper account, at the Miamisburg rail station alone, over 1,000 people were left stranded on the platform, unable to cram into the over-loaded passenger cars.

Hotels were filled. At the track, there were so many people, they spilled out onto the racing surface where they continually were pushed back by mounted police.

Everybody was here to see the fabled harness mare, Goldsmith Maid, who was unbeaten from 1871 to 1874 and in her career would won 350 heats, 95 of 123 races and $364,200, a mark that stood 60 years. The crowd that saw her in Dayton &amp;#8212; when she tied the record of 2:18 &amp;#8212;  was the biggest of her career.

&amp;#8220;Pretty neat, isn&amp;#8217;t it?&amp;#8221; Margo gushed. &amp;#8220;Now look back here.&amp;#8221;

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LANDMARK GETS FACE-LIFT

She led you into The Sports Room, where a collection of 37 photos of Dayton sports personalities and teams covered the walls.

Margo and her husband Gary &amp;#8212; who own the Hickory with Margo&amp;#8217;s sister Shirley and their 86-year-old mother, Irene &amp;#8212;  recently wanted to spruce up the landmark Brown Street restaurant that Irene and her late husband Joe Kiss launched with Irene&amp;#8217;s brother and his wife in 1962.

Turning the front dining room into a Dayton History Room and dedicating the back to sports was Margo&amp;#8217;s project.

Her work was unveiled at a reception last week that drew quite an assortment of sports types, including: Olympic gold medalist Lucinda Adams,  current women&amp;#8217;s pro basketball player Megan Duffy, 81-year-old power-lifter Felix Nichalson, hockey&amp;#8217;s Moe Benoit, former Major League pitcher Fred Sherman, 91-year-old former Detroit Lions tackle Tony Furst, softball legend Jerry Raiff, Donoher and four Dayton Flyers who played in the NBA, Bucky Bockhorn, Jim Paxson Sr., Monk Meineke and Don May.

The families and friends of another two dozen sports figures also were at the gathering.

&amp;#8220;We had three generations all together and it was definitely a neat experience,&amp;#8221; Duffy said. &amp;#8220;I got to meet some of the Dayton sports legends from back in the day and I thought it was pretty cool, too, that I&amp;#8217;m up there on the wall, right next to Tamika Williams and Brandie Hoskins, all of us connected like we are. (They starred at Chaminade Julienne and in college before playing in the WNBA).&amp;#8221; 

Bucky Bockhorn agreed: &amp;#8220;It was a good time. (Margo) did a hell of a job with all the photos and bringing us together. I knew her dad and I&amp;#8217;ll tell you, he&amp;#8217;d be proud of this.&amp;#8221;

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HE LIVED THE AMERICAN DREAM     

Joe Kiss, a Hungarian from Romania, immigrated to the United States in 1930. He was just 11 years old. 

&amp;#8220;He came all by himself with his name safety pinned to his coat,&amp;#8221;  said George Smith, the longtime Dayton area thoroughbred owner and former Ohio State golf star. &amp;#8220;He got off the boat at Ellis Island , couldn&amp;#8217;t speak the language and look what he made. He lived the American Dream.&amp;#8221;

After Irene, whose also of Hungarian descent from Romania, married Joe, they had three daughters &amp;#8212; Jo Ann, Shirley and Margo &amp;#8212; and the whole family, as well as in-laws and now grandkids, have worked at the restaurant.

The place  became known for ribs, steaks and cabbage rolls and developed quite a following. Beyond his restaurant, one of Joe&amp;#8217;s biggest passions was thoroughbreds. He owned several that were handled by Jim Morgan &amp;#8212; the former Louisville All America basketball player from Stivers &amp;#8212;  who launched his celebrated training career on a financial stake from Kiss.

Margo pointed to a Winner&amp;#8217;s Circle picture of Grand Action &amp;#8212; the Morgan-trained horse owned by her dad and Joe Samu &amp;#8212; that had won the Ohio Millionaire Stakes at Thistledown:

&amp;#8220;With the race there was a contest tied into the Ohio Lottery and a man named Omar Watts, a Cherokee Indian chief, won $1 million dollars because (through the luck of the draw) he&amp;#8217;d been pared with Grand Action.

&amp;#8220;He was very poor (according to a newspaper account Watts made $113 a week as a night watchman), had had three heart attacks in four years and two of his kids were living in foster care. When Grand Action won, (Watts) became the first $1 million lottery winner and was able to get his children back home.

&amp;#8220;How about that.&amp;#8221;

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&amp;#8220;I WAS A HELL OF A STUD&amp;#8221;

Over the past couple of months, Margo immersed herself in the photo project.

&amp;#8220;Her cell phone bill last month jumped from $56 to $400,&amp;#8221; said husband Gary, smiling but shaking his head. 

With the help of Nancy Horlacher, the history specialist at the Dayton Metro Library, Margo gathered some interesting photos from the city&amp;#8217;s past &amp;#8212; check out the circus elephants taking a dip in the old Miami-Erie Canal downtown &amp;#8212;  for the main dining room.

For the pictures in the sports room, she tracked down current and former athletes or their families.

She also put on display a big photo from the Dayton Flyers 1962 NIT victory that her dad had hanging in his office since the 1970s.

Taken on the floor of Madison Square Garden just after UD had beaten St. John&amp;#8217;s, it shows fans mobbing coach Tom Blackburn, Flyers big man Bill Chmielewski and teammate Garry Roggenburk.

Some of my favorite photos include one of Donoher &amp;#8212; the runners-up trophy in one hand &amp;#8212; and then athletics director Tom Frericks standing on the airport tarmac after just getting off the their flight from the NCAA Championship Game in 1967. 

There&amp;#8217;s also shot of Furst, his mug filling up his leather helmet &amp;#8212; which, back then, came with no face mask &amp;#8212; running straight at you, just as he would defenders he was about to flatten for Byron &amp;#8220;Whizzer&amp;#8221; White in the 1940s. 

And then there&amp;#8217;s the photo of a well-muscled, flat-topped Bockhorn, ripping down a rebound. &amp;#8220;Hey, I was a hell of a stud &amp;#8212; 6-4, 210,&amp;#8221; laughed the 75-year-old Bockhorn  when asked about it. Then, with self-deprecating deflection, he said, &amp;#8220;Naah, I&amp;#8217;m just kidding.&amp;#8221;

But the picture shows he was telling the truth and as you go photo to photo, you are left with so many more memorable images. 

&amp;#8220;Joe Kiss was just the nicest guy of all time, without a doubt,&amp;#8221; said Smith. &amp;#8221; He bought more rounds for folks coming into his place than any restaurateur anyplace &amp;#8212; ever. You always got something you weren&amp;#8217;t quite expecting when you came into his place.&amp;#8221;

Nothing has changed

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Here are three of my favorite videos of Michael Jackson in the sports world.

The first is with Muhammad Ali in 1977. Then there&amp;#8217;s the 1992 session he had with Chicago Bulls star Michael Jordan for his video &amp;#8220;Jam.&amp;#8221; Finally, there&amp;#8217;s his performance at the 1993 Super Bowl. It&amp;#8217;s probably the best halftime performance I&amp;#8217;ve seen in 30 years of covering the Super Bowl.







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<title>Joey Votto and the cretins who come out of the woodwork</title>

    

    


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As Joey Votto walked off the field following batting practice before the Reds Futures Game April 4 at Fifth Third Field, I met him at the dugout steps and asked if we could talk for a few minutes.

The Cincinnati Reds first baseman led the way to the end of the dugout, where I asked him something about how it felt being back in Dayton again since he&amp;#8217;d played for the Dragons in 2003 and 2004 and was very close to his host family here.

He offered up a couple of Dayton memories with a smile, after which I happened to bring up his dad, who had died last August. I had no agenda, other than I knew I had found it pretty tough when my dad died. 

I asked something along the lines of &amp;#8220;The season starts in two days and this will be your first Opening Day ever without your dad. Is that tough to deal with? Do you have any special memories of him on Opening Day?&amp;#8221;

His face drained. His smile melted and for a good while he said absolutely nothing. &amp;#8220;I&amp;#8217;m not going to talk about this,&amp;#8221; he finally said in little more than a whisper. &amp;#8220;I&amp;#8217;m not going there.&amp;#8221;

I felt bad and it took me a few seconds to regroup. He never did quite refocus on our conversation, which ended a couple of minutes later. 

I wrote about that encounter last Saturday night after Votto &amp;#8212; who had missed most of a month for what, at the time, was only said to be &amp;#8220;a stress-related&amp;#8221; incident &amp;#8212; played nine innings with the Dragons on a rehab assignment here.

In the Saturday blog, I wrote: &amp;#8220;He&amp;#8217;s scheduled to play for the Dragons Sunday and that may be especially challenging. It&amp;#8217;s Father&amp;#8217;s Day and last summer when his dad, Joseph &amp;#8212; a Toronto chef and his son&amp;#8217;s biggest supporter &amp;#8212; died, Votto took the loss especially hard. He took a week off for bereavement, then returned to the Reds and was given some extra time out of the line-up by manager Dusty Baker.

&amp;#8220;Before he left, he had asked the club to keep the death quiet until his return. Since then, he&amp;#8217;s only talked on a couple of occasions &amp;#8212; and very briefly &amp;#8212; about losing his father &amp;#8230; Sunday, I imagine thoughts of his dad will be swirling beneath the surface.&amp;#8221;

By the next day &amp;#8212; as is too often the case in the blogosphere &amp;#8212; some real cretins came out of the woodwork.

In the internet chat rooms, the sports blogs and every other open web forum, people are able to hide behind a fake name, a catchy moniker &amp;#8212; freyourmind and million dollar baby  come to mind in this instance &amp;#8212; and never have to reveal their identity or take responsibility for what they say.

And so somebody like freyourmind writes: &amp;#8220;stress related, what a pus. hey million dollar baby we all have stress I say get over it and get back to your job. In my opinion they are all spoiled brats. peace&amp;#8221;

Of course many people were sympathetic, but there were also ones whose comments were so nasty that I either killed them off my blog or erased them from my phone messages. To me you are a coward if you attack someone, but refuse to use your name.

The people who tried to make Votto a pinata &amp;#8212; not just on my blog, but at other internet sites and on some sports talk radio shows &amp;#8212;  questioned everything from his sexuality to his toughness and his commitment and care for his teammates. Their common thread often was their lack of civility and that&amp;#8217;s what I hate about the whole blog, open-forum free-for-all that&amp;#8217;s now so popular.

Athletes are human, too. Some of these comments hurt them and their families and none of us is any richer for the vilest rants.

And as everyone now knows  &amp;#8212; three nights after he appeared here in Dayton &amp;#8212; Votto, back with the Reds, told reporters in Toronto that the loss of his dad is the thing that put him into the mental tailspin he&amp;#8217;s still trying to recover from.  

He told how he&amp;#8217;s been hospitalized twice, how he experienced panic attacks and called 9-1-1 in Cincinnati. He said he thought he was going to die.

My heart goes out to Votto. To me, it took real courage to address the situation publicly. He&amp;#8217;s now working to make himself better. He&amp;#8217;s getting counseling, he&amp;#8217;s likely got some medication and he should have all our understanding and support. 

As for the always-at-the-ready attackers, my guess is they&amp;#8217;re not shamed or chastened by any of this. They&amp;#8217;ll continue to cloak themselves in their anonymity and wait for someone else to tear down and besmirch.

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<title>COLUMN: Adreian Payne says &quot;No&quot; to Juwan Staten</title>

    

    


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Kentucky sent him a fancy notice made to look like it was from ESPN announcing he&amp;#8217;d just committed to the Wildcats.

Tennessee, Adreian Payne said, has sent him &amp;#8220;stacks and stacks of stuff.&amp;#8221;

Ohio State just added assistant coach Jeff Boals, who has a close relationship with him and now is trying to lure the 6-foot-10 Jefferson High senior to Columbus next year.

And then there&amp;#8217;s the University of Dayton, which, among other things, has Juwan Staten, the UD-bound guard, doing its bidding.

&amp;#8220;We&amp;#8217;ll both be out with our buddies and I never know quite when it&amp;#8217;s gonna happen, but I do know it IS going to happen,&amp;#8221; Payne laughed. &amp;#8220;Pretty soon Wan will go, &amp;#8216;C&amp;#8217;mon, go with me (to UD).&amp;#8221;

When it comes to Payne, Staten is like a travelling salesman because he&amp;#8217;s also pitching Oak Hill Academy, the national prep school in Virginia he&amp;#8217;s transferred to out of Thurgood Marshall High.

&amp;#8220;Oak Hill says they don&amp;#8217;t recruit, but they do,&amp;#8221; Payne said. &amp;#8220;They have Wan calling me a lot trying to get me to go with him. I looked into it, but I don&amp;#8217;t see the point for me.&amp;#8221;

This is what&amp;#8217;s its like to be one of the best uncommitted players in the nation. 

Payne told people at the NBA Top 100 camp that he took part in last week in Virginia, that he&amp;#8217;s already received a dozen scholarship offers. In its prep prospect rankings, rivals.com rates him the eighth best player in the class of 2010. Staten is No 59.

Payne was at Daequan Cook&amp;#8217;s basketball camp Tuesday, June 23, when the Portland Trail Blazers 7-foot center Greg Oden &amp;#8212; Cook&amp;#8217;s pal and former OSU teammate &amp;#8212; walked in. 

Soon Payne and Oden were talking. &amp;#8220;You playing out here today?&amp;#8221; Oden asked. 

Payne shook his head and camp director Albert Powell explained: &amp;#8220;I won&amp;#8217;t let him. I don&amp;#8217;t want to risk anything. He has too much at stake.&amp;#8221;

Over the next two weeks Payne travels to Phoenix to take part in the camp run Suns&amp;#8217; big man A&amp;#8217;mare Stoudemire and then San Diego for  LeBron James&amp;#8217; camp. The rest of the summer he&amp;#8217;ll travel the country with his All Ohio Red AAU team, which includes Staten and the OSU bound pair, Jared Sullinger and Jordan Sibert.

After Oden met with Payne, he recalled another Dayton-bred talent he met for the first time. He was playing for an Indiana AAU team coached by Mike Conley Sr., who brought the players to Dayton&amp;#8217;s McFarland Junior High for some workouts. 

&amp;#8220;We already had Aaron Pogue on the team and then they brought this other kid in for a tryout who was supposed to be pretty good,&amp;#8221; Oden smiled. &amp;#8220;I figured he was just some street ball player.&amp;#8221;

Cook remembered that meeting, too. &amp;#8220;I walked in for my tryout and the first guy I saw was Greg. It&amp;#8217;s pretty rare to see a 7-footer  when you&amp;#8217;re as young as we were, but it didn&amp;#8217;t bother me.&amp;#8221;

Oden laughed: &amp;#8220;As soon as we started playing, he just killed everybody. Right then I knew Dayton has some pretty good talent.&amp;#8221;

Adreian Payne is now proving nothing has changed.

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As his basketball talents took him from one glorious pinnacle to the next &amp;#8212; from state title at Dunbar High to Ohio State to a first round pick in the NBA  &amp;#8212; Daequan Cook said his mom continually reminded him of one thing:

&amp;#8220;Don&amp;#8217;t forget where you came from. It&amp;#8217;s important to give back to your community and when that moment comes, step up.&amp;#8221;

Sad as it was, that moment came when he heard that DaQuan Sales &amp;#8212; a 12-year old Dayton boy who idolized him, a kid who used to pretend he was Cook every time he played basketball and continually asked his aunt if he looked like his hero  &amp;#8212; was killed by a car while riding his bicycle, June 13.  

&amp;#8220;You always get a sign from somewhere and I felt this was my sign,&amp;#8221; said  Cook, who already was returning to Dayton for his youth camp which opened Monday and continues today at Dunbar &amp;#8212; a camp DaQuan had signed up for and  according to his 76-year-old great granddad, Garfield  Sales, &amp;#8220;had been counting down the days to until that terrible day.&amp;#8221; 

Cook said he&amp;#8217;d help pay for the funeral, would dedicate the annual scholarship he plans to start in Dayton in DaQuan&amp;#8217;s name and  invited the Sales family to his camp. 

Monday DaQuan&amp;#8217;s mom, sister, little brother, aunt and his wheelchair-bound great grandfather took him up on the offer and &amp;#8212; in as touching of a meeting as you can imagine &amp;#8212;  Cook spent nearly an hour with them.

&amp;#8220;I&amp;#8217;ll be up &amp;#8216;til all hours of the night telling my wife about all that happened,&amp;#8221; Garfield said. &amp;#8220;Daequan really cared. You could see it in his eyes, in his face. My grandson picked the perfect role model and now I&amp;#8217;m in awe just like he was.&amp;#8221; 

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Both came from Dayton&amp;#8217;s West Side and  loved basketball.  Their first names were pronounced the same and they even had the same nickname &amp;#8212; though one got his from Miami Heat teammate Dwyane Wade and the other, from his late grandpa.  

&amp;#8220;DaDa (day-day) would eat, sleep and talk Daequan Cook,&amp;#8221; 76-year old Garfield Sales said of his 12-year-old great grandson DaQuan &amp;#8220;DaDa&amp;#8221; Sales and the NBA player from Dunbar High he so idolized.

Whenever DaDa played basketball, he pretended to be Cook. Sometimes he even told kids that they were brothers. 

&amp;#8220;He&amp;#8217;d always ask me he if looked like Daequan,&amp;#8221; smiled DaDa&amp;#8217;s great aunt, Shirletta Freeman. 

And when Cook put on a show during the NBA All Star Weekend in Phoenix last February &amp;#8212; winning the Three-Point Shootout &amp;#8212; DaDa was  glued to the television at his North Antioch Street home

&amp;#8220;He just cheered and cheered and cheered,&amp;#8221; said Janell Sales, his 31-year-old mother. &amp;#8220;He kept going, &amp;#8216;He won, Mom. He won!&amp;#8217;&amp;#8221;

As soon as he heard Cook was coming back home and putting on a two-day youth camp at Dunbar &amp;#8212; which began Monday June 22 for younger kids and continues today for eighth through 12th graders &amp;#8212; DaDa got on his bicycle and rode to Deveroes clothing store on W. Third Street and picked up an entry form.

Janell said she was in the hospital getting treatment for her sickle cell anemia when DaDa called her: &amp;#8220;He wanted to know if I&amp;#8217;d be home when the camp started. I knew what it meant to him and I said, &amp;#8216;Yeah, if I gotta sign myself outta here, I&amp;#8217;ll be there. You are going to make that camp.&amp;#8217;&amp;#8221;

Garfield &amp;#8212; who DaDa called PawPaw and loved to hang out with &amp;#8212; said his great grandson had been &amp;#8220;counting down the days to camp &amp;#8230;until that terrible day.&amp;#8221;

It was just past 7 p.m. on June 13. DaDa was riding his bicycle along the 300 block of Elmhurst Road when a white Buick driven by 25-year-old Antwonne McGinnis, a guy with a sizeable rap sheet but no valid license, tried passing another vehicle in a no passing zone and hit and killed DaDa.

McGinnis stopped momentarily, then drove off and later returned, smelling, police said, of marijuana. Three days later he was arrested.

The death stunned everyone who knew DaDa. &amp;#8220;He was just a good, good boy,&amp;#8221; said his mom. &amp;#8220;He was my biggest helper. He&amp;#8217;d  give his little brother (three-year-old Dajuan) a bath, dress him and walk him to the store.

&amp;#8220;One year I asked him what he wanted for Christmas and he refused to tell me. He said, &amp;#8216;I don&amp;#8217;t want anything, Mom, &amp;#8216;cause you have bills to pay.&amp;#8217;&amp;#8221; 

Garfield &amp;#8212; whose emphysema has him on oxygen and in a wheel chair &amp;#8212; has similar stories: &amp;#8220;His (great) grandmother and I would come from the store and he&amp;#8217;d carry our groceries in. He&amp;#8217;d do the same for Miss Pauline, the 82-year-old lady across the street. And when another of our neighbors was raking the yard, he&amp;#8217;d go help. 
&amp;#8220;He was just a special boy. Everybody felt it.&amp;#8221;

Including Daequan Cook.

&amp;#8220;THIS WAS MY SIGN&amp;#8221;

Cook said he got a text message about the death and when he called back to Dayton and talked  to Albert Powell, the Dunbar assistant coach who is running his camp, he learned more about the boy and wanted to help.

As Cook&amp;#8217;s basketball talents have taken him higher and higher up the basketball ladder, he said his mother, Renae, has reminded him of one thing: &amp;#8220;Don&amp;#8217;t forget where you came from. It&amp;#8217;s important to give back to your community and when that moment comes, step up.&amp;#8221;

With that in mind, he said, &amp;#8220;You always get a sign from somewhere and I felt this was my sign.&amp;#8221;

While his  camp &amp;#8212; which Monday drew an overflow crowd of 192 third through seventh graders &amp;#8212; was a way to help kids in general, DaDa&amp;#8217;s death gave him a particular kid, one with a golden heart and, as his mom put it &amp;#8220;that million-dollar smile.&amp;#8221;

Powell said Cook told him, &amp;#8220;Let&amp;#8217;s make something happen.&amp;#8221;

Cook said he&amp;#8217;d help pay for DaDa&amp;#8217;s funeral and would dedicate the annual scholarship he plans to start in Dayton in DaQuan&amp;#8217;s name.

&amp;#8220;We hope Pat Riley will be a guest speaker at a dinner we have here and we can eventually raise $100,000,&amp;#8221; Powell said. &amp;#8220;That way we can help a couple of kids get a start every year.&amp;#8221;

Cook also said he&amp;#8217;d sponsor 10 of DaDa&amp;#8217;s friends to his camp every year and he invited the Sales family to come this year if they felt up to it.

&amp;#8220;The Daequan that&amp;#8217;s doing  this here is the same one we see in Miami all season long,&amp;#8221; said Heat assistant coach David Fizdale, who joined Cook here Monday. &amp;#8220;And what he did for (the Sales family) isn&amp;#8217;t some kind of public relations move. It means a lot to him. When that little boy passed away, he tried to imagine what it would be like if it were his family. That&amp;#8217;s why this is so heartfelt for him.&amp;#8221;

&amp;#8220;DAEQUAN REALLY CARED&amp;#8221;

Although the other advertized pros didn&amp;#8217;t show up Monday &amp;#8212; Greg Oden (Portland Trail Blazers) and Mike Conley (Memphis Grizzles)  are scheduled to assist today &amp;#8212; it didn&amp;#8217;t seem to matter to any of the kids who attended.

All they cared about was Daequan Cook.

And if you could have seen the way he embraced the Sales family in private, you would have seen he even out did the hype.

Janell and her two other children &amp;#8212; Dajaun and nine-year-old sister Daziah &amp;#8212; were accompanied by her aunt and granddad.

While they were given Cook&amp;#8217;s autographed Heat jersey, a bag full of camp goodies and a big box filled with Heat souvenirs, the thing they&amp;#8217;ll treasure most from this day was the time with him.

He spent nearly an hour with them in private. He held Janell and whispered some comforting thoughts in her ear.  &amp;#8220;He said he&amp;#8217;s family now and we can&amp;#8217;t get rid of him,&amp;#8221; she said with a smile later. 
After playing with the kids and then &amp;#8212; with Janell&amp;#8217;s make up still smudged on the right shoulder of his white t-shirt &amp;#8212; he sat next to Garfield&amp;#8217;s wheelchair and they talked for a long time.

&amp;#8220;(DaDa) was a lovely young man and he looked up to you,&amp;#8221; Fairfield told Cook. &amp;#8220;You were a great role model.&amp;#8221;

As he stood off to the side and watched &amp;#8212; Alfred Powell, Albert&amp;#8217;s brother and himself a coach &amp;#8212; just smiled: &amp;#8220;It&amp;#8217;s almost like Divine Intervention. Daequan&amp;#8217;s doing so much for them, but all this is doing something for him, too. He&amp;#8217;s learning what it means to be a role model.&amp;#8221;

And more than just her family benefitted from it Monday, said DaDa&amp;#8217;s great aunt.

&amp;#8220;The impact he had on one little&amp;#8217;s boy&amp;#8217;s life is one that hundreds of other young people throughout this community feel, too,&amp;#8221; Freeman said. &amp;#8220;He&amp;#8217;s really important to so many kids here.&amp;#8221;

And to one old man, as well.

&amp;#8220;Daequan really cared,&amp;#8221; Garfield said later on in a voice that was wavering, not so much from the emphysema as from the emotion that still welled up inside. &amp;#8220;You could see it in his eyes, in his face. He almost made me cry. What he&amp;#8217;s doing is mind boggling. 

&amp;#8220;Some little girl or boy will go to school because DaDa was on this earth and he chose Daequan Cook to be his role model. 

&amp;#8220;Though DaDa&amp;#8217;s life was cut short, he&amp;#8217;ll live on. Because of Daequan Cook, DaQuan Sales will live for a long, long, long time.&amp;#8221;

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Mark and Blake

Mark LaForce has a Father&amp;#8217;s Day message for everyone:

&amp;#8220;Enjoy the moment, reflect on all the good things &amp;#8212; all the blessings &amp;#8212; you have, take nothing forgranted and, most of all, be proud of your kids.&amp;#8221;

The Butler Township father is proving you can do just that even in the most heart-wrenching situations.

This morning, June 21, he will be in the Intensive Care Unit at Cincinnati Children&amp;#8217;s Hospital Medical Center, leaning over the bed of his 18-year-old son Blake, who is 19 months into a rugged medical journey &amp;#8212; that began with leukemia and a successful bone marrow transplant, then was detoured by an off-the-charts infection of the central nervous system and finally a pulmonary hemorrhage &amp;#8212; that no family would want to travel.

And yet the way Mark, his wife Linda, their other two children and especially Blake himself &amp;#8212; who was a quiet, but popular standout athlete at Vandalia Butler High &amp;#8212; have done it, has drawn people to them from around the world.

Although Blake now can&amp;#8217;t eat, drink, walk or talk on his own &amp;#8212; &amp;#8220;he&amp;#8217;s like a full-grown chicken back inside the egg,&amp;#8221; Mark said &amp;#8212;  that doesn&amp;#8217;t mean he isn&amp;#8217;t communicating with his parents. 

When Mark gets face to face with Blake, he said his son &amp;#8220;talks to him&amp;#8221; through his eye movements, which, sometimes, are accompanied by a tear.

Mark chronicles all this in a compelling daily web journal &amp;#8212; www.CaringBridge.org/visit/blakelaforce/journal &amp;#8212; that has drawn over 108,000  people who are following the day-to-day battle.

I wrote more extensively about Mark and Blake in today&amp;#8217;s newspaper and that column can also be found here on the sports web page.

As Mark told me just before we parted the other day: &amp;#8220;Our son is teaching not just us, but a lot of other people what it means to fight, to have faith and to hold on to what you love.&amp;#8221;

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Blake LaForce

Rather than a big backyard party, a round of golf or taking in a ball game, Mark LaForce will spend Father&amp;#8217;s Day in Room 50 of the Intensive Care Unit at Cincinnati Children&amp;#8217;s Hospital Medical Center. 

That&amp;#8217;s where he&amp;#8217;ll lean down until he&amp;#8217;s face to face with his son Blake &amp;#8212; a boy who had combined his dad&amp;#8217;s football musculature with his mom&amp;#8217;s good looks, a young man whose face now is discolored and bloated by steroid treatments, whose body now requires  a feeding line, a neck stint, a trachea tube &amp;#8212; and he&amp;#8217;ll hold out the gold cross he wears so proudly around his neck. 

&amp;#8220;I want him to see that cross,&amp;#8221; Mark said. &amp;#8220;It&amp;#8217;s his and I tell him I&amp;#8217;m wearing it to highlight our faith together and let him know God is with him.&amp;#8221;

Although Blake hasn&amp;#8217;t been able to speak for almost 10 months, Mark said they will communicate: &amp;#8220;When we&amp;#8217;re eye to eye ,that&amp;#8217;s our quality time. That&amp;#8217;s when he talks with his eyes. 

&amp;#8220;He&amp;#8217;s saying. &amp;#8216;Dad, Mom, I&amp;#8217;m here.&amp;#8217; We know he understands because there are times he&amp;#8217;ll pucker up for his mom&amp;#8217;s kiss. And there is one thing that comes out loud and clear from his look. He&amp;#8217;s telling us, &amp;#8216;I&amp;#8217;m still fighting.&amp;#8217;&amp;#8221; 

Few Father&amp;#8217;s Day moments anywhere will be more heart-wrenchingly intense than the one Mark LaForce and his 18-year-old son will share today, June 21.

Blake was a standout junior linebacker and running back for the Vandalia Butler high school football team in 2007 &amp;#8212;  he ran for 237 and three touchdowns against Tecumseh &amp;#8212; and he just may have been the strongest guy in the school. One of the state&amp;#8217;s top prep power lifters, he could dead lift and squat 550 pounds, bench 350.

For all his physical gifts, there was a quietness about him and that made him even more popular. His future appeared unbounded until a little over 19 months ago when he was diagnosed with Acute Lymphoblast Leukemia (ALL).  

After a successful bone marrow transplant in May of 2008, he appeared on the road to recovery until mid-August when he developed toxoplasmosis, a devastating infection in the central nervous system, that, as Mark put it, &amp;#8220;shut down all his motor skills. All of a sudden he could no longer walk, talk, eat or drink. It&amp;#8217;s been that way since.&amp;#8221;

Even so, Blake was slowly fighting his way back from that when this past March  26 he had a pulmonary hemorrhage, or, as Mark again explains, &amp;#8220;his lungs bled similar to what a mountain climber or diver might get&amp;#8230; And we nearly lost him again.&amp;#8221;

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THURSDAY, MARCH 26, 2009 4:25 PM, EDT

&amp;#8220;(The day) started badly. Blake&amp;#8217;s breathing saturation acutely dropped suddenly&amp;#8230;Bottom line, our doctor came in and is nervous and concerned about his sudden condition, not to mention putting the breathing tube into his lungs with the risk of causing any more bleeding somewhere else on the way down&amp;#8230;.They hit him with a big dose of steroids, running constant platelet transfusions, more blood transfusions to give him more oxygen and all the other medications he gets&amp;#8230;.. 

&amp;#8220;I am asking you, Blake&amp;#8217;s TEAM, to hit your knees and pray for a good couple of days, so we can see some light at the end of this big detour tunnel&amp;#8230;.&amp;#8221;

THURSDAY, JUNE 18, 2009 1:14 PM, EDT:

&amp;#8220;We do not have to tell you that Blake&amp;#8217;s journey is very complex and difficult for (him). We can not candy coat this. It is a living nightmare we want to wake up from. What keeps Blake going is God and just Blake.&amp;#8221;

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Mark was a lineman on the 1973 Wittenberg football team that won the NCAA Division III national title. After marrying Linda, then an airline stewardess, they had three children, he coached many of the kids&amp;#8217; sports teams and worked as a high tech software salesman. 

He was not a writer.

But a few months after Blake&amp;#8217;s diagnosis, he found himself drawn to the laptop he and Linda had bought their son for Christmas in 2007.  So many people were asking for news and things they could do that he found the best way to communicate was to post updates on the CaringBridge website sponsored by Children&amp;#8217;s Medical Center of Dayton.

As Blake&amp;#8217;s medical odyssey became far more threatening, it tested the entire family. For a while Mark and Linda lived seven days a week in Cincinnati, one sleeping on the cot in Blake&amp;#8217;s room while the other slept at the American Cancer Society&amp;#8217;s Hope Lodge.     They now go in shifts between their Butler Township home and the hospital &amp;#8212; a friend always stays and tends to their house &amp;#8212;  but it&amp;#8217;s still a monumental undertaking.

With the turn of events last August, Mark was forced to give up his job to  be at his son&amp;#8217;s bedside. He said with all their attention turned to Blake, he and Linda felt strains in their marriage and their own inner resolve often was tested. 

They have survived by drawing on their faith, their love for each other and the continual wave of support from family, friends and especially the Vandalia Butler High community.

For Mark, some of the best tonic has  come when he&amp;#8217;s sat down at that computer and poured out his heart in the CaringBridge posts that have become an intimate, almost-daily journal.

&amp;#8220;To sit and reflect, it&amp;#8217;s good for my own mental health,&amp;#8221; he said. &amp;#8220;I try to tell you what&amp;#8217;s going on and what we&amp;#8217;re learning.&amp;#8221;

That includes, he said , &amp;#8216;Not asking, &amp;#8216;Why Blake? Why us?&amp;#8217; You&amp;#8217;ll never make it if you keep getting hung up on &amp;#8216;Why?&amp;#8221; If you think you&amp;#8217;re going to go through life without hardship or heartache, you&amp;#8217;ll have a rude awakening.

&amp;#8220;You just have to learn to be strong, put one foot in front of the other and say, &amp;#8216;Okay, I took your punch, what&amp;#8217;s next?&amp;#8217;&amp;#8221;

People have embraced that approach and as of this weekend, his journal &amp;#8212; which includes pictures of Blake &amp;#8212; and an accompanying guest book signed by people from around the world, has had over 108,000 visitors.

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WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 20, 2008 11:08 PM, EDT:

&amp;#8220;Much of the same, as Blake is still kind of catatonic&amp;#8230;.I stopped by the Aviators football practice tonight spontaneously, while I was in town for a few hours. The coaches were gracious enough to let me address the team&amp;#8230; The bottom line message I wanted to convey was just enjoy this opportunity while you have it. Life is full of twists and turns and uncertainties so go for the gusto now&amp;#8230;.And take care of your teammate for many reasons.&amp;#8221;

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Sitting in the backyard serenity of their home the other morning &amp;#8212; surrounded by trees and flowers and the shrill calls of cardinals &amp;#8212; Mark focused on a metal bench near the house.

Two years ago, Blake surprised his older sister, Lauren &amp;#8212; who like her mom had recently become a born-again Christian &amp;#8212;  when he plopped down next to her and asked something unexpected.

&amp;#8220;It was pretty amazing for a 16 year old,&amp;#8221; Mark said. &amp;#8220;He asked &amp;#8216;How can I help? How can I make a difference?&amp;#8217;&amp;#8221;

Mark  became silent, then finally offered: &amp;#8220;Unfortunately, this is the way Blake is being used. God is working through him. I thoroughly believe that. There&amp;#8217;s a reason he&amp;#8217;s still here. So many people &amp;#8212; especially those Blake&amp;#8217;s age  &amp;#8212; have changed because of him.&amp;#8221;

In holding tight to the positive, Mark said he&amp;#8217;s occasionally found himself at odds with a couple of medical people.

&amp;#8220;I&amp;#8217;ve had  them say &amp;#8216;Mark, you&amp;#8217;ve got to be realistic. Blake has got issues. He&amp;#8217;s got a lot going on.&amp;#8217; And I go, &amp;#8216;Yeah, so?&amp;#8217; Here we are knocking them down one at a time like the old  Whac-A-Mole game. &amp;#8216;What&amp;#8217;s your point?&amp;#8217;

&amp;#8220;And they say, &amp;#8216;Have you ever thought enough is enough?&amp;#8217; And I&amp;#8217;ll be truthful, I&amp;#8217;ve told those people to leave the freakin&amp;#8217; room.&amp;#8221;

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SATURDAY, MAY 30, 2009 2:43 PM, EDT:

&amp;#8220;It was an honor for our family to accept Blake&amp;#8217;s high school diploma and see the packed Student Activity Center break into a thunderous standing O applause for quite a while&amp;#8230;. To be mentioned in so many speeches is a beautiful tribute to Blake and made us so proud. The Class of 2009 all wore a red heart with #41 in the center on their gowns&amp;#8230;.Wow, I&amp;#8217;m tearing up even still now.&amp;#8221;

TUESDAY, JUNE 2, 2009 10:38 AM, EDT:

&amp;#8220;Saturday afternoon when I arrived in Blake&amp;#8217;s room I told him I had a surprise for him&amp;#8230;his high school diploma. He immediately opened his eyes and stared at it, reading it and (he) made a satisfied expression.&amp;#8221;     

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Last month a local church organized a community-wide garage sale and raised almost $8,800 for the Ronald McDonald House and the LaForce family. Someone else has made Blake LaForce bumper stickers. A girl in the neighborhood collected a wide assortment sports shirts that bore students&amp;#8217; names on the backs and, with her mom&amp;#8217;s help, sewed them into a quilt for Blake.

A woman from Texas sent a prayer quilt. Dr. Jim Klosterman,  director of surgery for the Sports Medicine Center at Good Samaritan Hospital and consultant for the University of Dayton women&amp;#8217;s basketball team and several area high schools, just completed a 100-mile. fund-raising bike ride in Asheville, N.C. with his daughter in Blake&amp;#8217;s honor. 

Ohio State football coach Jim Tressel has taken a special interest in the LaForce family and the Dave Matthews Band &amp;#8212; through a singer songwriter friend who plays the guitar for Blake &amp;#8212; just sent autographed CDs to the hospital.

&amp;#8220;Blake is bringing out the best in people,&amp;#8221; Mark said. &amp;#8220;I know he&amp;#8217;s made me a better person, too.

&amp;#8220;I&amp;#8217;ve gotten over the selfish part of me that used to focus on, &amp;#8216;Oh God, what a college ball player he&amp;#8217;d have been.&amp;#8217; Now it&amp;#8217;s like who gives a &amp;#8230;.

&amp;#8220;He&amp;#8217;s already proven so much more than that. Through all of this, I&amp;#8217;ve never seen him waiver. You know how you&amp;#8217;re proud of some one in your own life? Well, that&amp;#8217;s how I feel about Blake 10 times over. 

&amp;#8220;He&amp;#8217;s made me realize the most important things of being a dad and he&amp;#8217;s teaching me how to be a man. A real man. He wanted to make a difference&amp;#8230;and he is.&amp;#8221;

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THURSDAY, MAY 21, 2009 5:38 PM, EDT:

&amp;#8220;Blake sprung another fever last night from ???  &amp;#8230;. It really is so frustrating when a fever pops up because Blake is miserable and we are not sure why&amp;#8230;..(But) read my lips, there is nothing that will keep Blake or us down. Blake/we will keep fighting until the war is won.&amp;#8221;

SATURDAY, JUNE 13, 2009 6:43 PM, EDT:
   &amp;#8220;Mom has been hands on, like no one but a mother can do, with Blake today. He&amp;#8217;s been bathed and caressed with an attention to detail.&amp;#8221;

TUESDAY, JUNE 16, 2009 1:36 PM, EDT:

&amp;#8220;Again, we can&amp;#8217;t imagine what he is thinking, but he  is unmistakably fighting with every ounce of energy and will power he has. We are more than anxious to get him well again and hear his story from him.&amp;#8221; 

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Joey Votto  came to Fifth Third Field  on a rehab assignment Saturday night and instead the Cincinnati Reds slugging first baseman found himself in the middle of a lovefest.

A record crowd of 9,507 &amp;#8212; including several fans wearing their No. 31 Reds&amp;#8217; Votto jerseys &amp;#8212; gave him its heart and he reciprocated almost instantly.

He ripped the first pitch thrown to him by West Michigan right-hander Mark Sorensen over the right field wall and out of the park onto Sears Street for a two-run home run in the first inning. 

When the ball was still in the air, the roaring crowd began standing and cheering wildly. By the time Votto stepped on home plate, he was awash in standing ovation that was more like a communal embrace.

I was sitting in Section 113 and I heard people yelling to him  &amp;#8220;Welcome Back&amp;#8221; and &amp;#8220;We Love You&amp;#8221; and finally some folks just began to chant &amp;#8220;Joey&amp;#8230; Joey&amp;#8230; Joey.&amp;#8221; People were snapping photos of the moment on their cell phones.

In the second inning, when the umpire called a questionable  second strike on Votto, the fans moaned  at the call. When he grounded out after that, they still cheered him. And in the fifth, when he stole second after a walk, they roared with glee. When he was thrown out at home trying to score on Carlos Mendez single, they offered up a collective moan. It was as if they were watching their own son get caught.

This might not be Great American Ball Park, but it is home sweet home for Votto, who played here  in 2003 and 2004. He felt the connection and it was on his initiative that the bat he used for batting practice  &amp;#8212; complete with his autograph &amp;#8212; was the grand prize give-away last night.

People cheer one of their own, but the special outpouring here was because Votto has been struggling of late with some personal issue that both he and the club &amp;#8212; rightly so &amp;#8212; have kept private. 

Votto was Cincinnati&amp;#8217;s best hitter &amp;#8212; he had a .357 average with eight homers and 33 RBIs in 38 games &amp;#8212; when he was waylaid with an inner ear infection. 

In late May, he returned for three games, but was taken out early each time for unspecified reasons. The club later called it &amp;#8220;stress-related.&amp;#8221; He has been on the disabled list most of the time since. 

He hasn&amp;#8217;t played a full regulation game in well over a month. He played  six innings two days in a row in Sarasota before coming here  and also played in a Gulf Coast League intersquad game 

After taking batting practice Saturday, he told reporters his biggest challenge would just be to play nine innings.

He&amp;#8217;s scheduled to play for the Dragons Sunday and that may be especially challenging. It&amp;#8217;s Fathers Day and last summer when his dad, Joseph &amp;#8212; a Toronto chef and his son&amp;#8217;s biggest supporter &amp;#8212; died, Votto took the loss especially hard. He took a week off for bereavement, then returned to the Reds by club rule, though he was given some extra time out of the line-up by manager Dusty Baker.

Before he left, he had asked the club to keep the death quiet until his return. Since then he&amp;#8217;s only talked on a couple of occasions &amp;#8212; and very briefly &amp;#8212; about losing his father. He declined to discuss the topic when the Reds played their last spring training game here &amp;#8212; The Futures Game &amp;#8212; on April 4. 

Sunday, I imagine thoughts of his dad will be swirling beneath the surface  with everything else that&amp;#8217;s going on, so I&amp;#8217;m sure he could use the same embrace that he got from the Dayton crowd Saturday night.

I&amp;#8217;m pretty sure he&amp;#8217;ll get it.

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Ethel Waters

I know Joey Votto will be over playing with the Dayton Dragons tonight and Sunday afternoon, &amp;#8220;Legally Blonde&amp;#8221; is still at the Schuster Center and they&amp;#8217;ve got the Civil Rights Game and all its festivities down with the Cincinnati Reds at Great American Ball Park &amp;#8212; and all of those are good viewing choices &amp;#8212; but if you really want to treat yourself to something special, go see &amp;#8220;Ethel Waters: His Eye Is On The Sparrow&amp;#8221; playing at the Loft Theatre tonight through June 28.

This has someone who swings for the fences, civil rights and the stage all wrapped into one.

I saw it with my wife Friday night and it was flat-out tremendous. It&amp;#8217;s the best show I&amp;#8217;ve seen here in a long time.

Danielle Lee Greaves, the Broadway vet who plays Waters in playwright Larry Parr&amp;#8217;s  one-woman show, held the audience in her spell all night as she told the inspirational story &amp;#8212; in animated narrative and especially with her 15 songs &amp;#8212; of the sassy, outspoken blues and jazz singer who was a pioneer for black performers some 80 years ago and whose life was forever changed when she finally joined the Billy Graham Crusade in 1957.

Waters &amp;#8212; who lived from 1896 to 1977 &amp;#8212; was raised in a poor and violent  back-alley neighborhood in Philadelphia,  was all but forced into marriage at age 13 to an abusive husband and worked as a hotel maid for $4.75 a week.  

After a year, she managed to flee the guy and, by chance, her musical talent was discovered. She ended up touring on the black vaudeville circuit, then became part of the Harlem Renaissance and from there her career spanned Broadway, movies, concerts &amp;#8212; eventually derailing with more personal trouble &amp;#8212; until she finally hooked up with Graham.

With the lively accompaniment of Cincinnati&amp;#8217;s Scot Woolley on piano,  Greaves takes you on that journey singing many of Waters&amp;#8217; songs: &amp;#8220;Stormy Weather,&amp;#8221; &amp;#8220;Frankie and Johnny,&amp;#8221; &amp;#8220;Taking a Chance on Love,&amp;#8221; &amp;#8220;Heat Wave,&amp;#8221; &amp;#8220;Little Black Boy,&amp;#8221; &amp;#8220;Dinah&amp;#8221;  and the Rudy Vallee/Hoagy Carmichael treat &amp;#8220;Old Man Harlem.&amp;#8221; And, of course, there&amp;#8217;s Water&amp;#8217;s signature  version of the old spiritual &amp;#8220;His Eye Is On The Sparrow.&amp;#8221; 

Greaves is so good that &amp;#8212; even without Waters&amp;#8217; stirring story line   &amp;#8212; I&amp;#8217;d come back to see her sing anytime.  

Add in the direction of Dayton native Schele Williams (schooled at Stivers and Colonel White and the Muse Machine), Tamara L. Honesty&amp;#8217;s Loft set, the fine costumes and lighting and you&amp;#8217;ve got a magical night that will stay with you awhile.

The Loft is at 126 N. Main St. Tickets are $33 at (937) 228-3630, (888) 228-3630 or www.ticketcenterstage.com.

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Charlie Coles &amp;#8212; who will receive the Ohio High School Athletic Association Ethics and Integrity Award Friday night in Columbus &amp;#8212; was talking both affectionately and sadly about Mark Anderson, his prized recruit who hadn&amp;#8217;t panned out.

You could tell it pained the Miami University coach that Anderson &amp;#8212; the Sinclair All American basketball player and Dunbar High product &amp;#8212; had clanked one off the rim academically and wouldn&amp;#8217;t be coming to Oxford to play for the RedHawks this fall.

&amp;#8220;We had talked a lot on the phone and I don&amp;#8217;t know if there&amp;#8217;s ever been anyone I enjoyed talking to like that more than Mark,&amp;#8221; Coles said quietly. &amp;#8220;He is a truly nice kid, one of those kids you say, Let&amp;#8217;s take a chance with him.&amp;#8217;

&amp;#8220;And when things worked out like they did, something happened that never has happened to me before in all my years of coaching. Mark called me up and thanked me and said he was sorry it didn&amp;#8217;t work out. No player has ever done that. 

&amp;#8220;I felt bad and he felt bad and I really do wish the best for him.&amp;#8221;

Coles thinks some hangers on may have gotten in Mark&amp;#8217;s ear and kept talking to him about playing at the next level &amp;#8212; the NBA &amp;#8212; rather than stressing the opportunity that college basketball offered provided he meet the classroom requirements.

&amp;#8220;In some ways, what guys like LeBron, Kobe, Dwight Howard and Kevin Garnett have done is pretty amazing,&amp;#8221; Coles said of the four NBA stars who jumped straight from high school to the pros. &amp;#8220;But in a lot of ways it&amp;#8217;s a bad thing and it hurt a lot of kids.

&amp;#8220;Guys like LeBron and Kobe and the rest don&amp;#8217;t come along very often,  but a lot of kids see what they did and see themselves doing the same thing  and they can&amp;#8217;t. That may have happened to Mark.&amp;#8221;

I think Coles is right. When I talked to Mark after one of his big games this year, he ended up talking more about going to the NBA than going to Miami. He is a good kid but I don&amp;#8217;t think he had the realistic future in his crosshairs. I&amp;#8217;m sure part of it is the Daequan Cook factor, too He sees what his old Dunbar teammate is doing in the NBA and he wants some of the same.

As for the award Coles receives at the OHSAA banquet Friday night, it&amp;#8217;s given annually to an Ohioan who has displayed outstanding ethical behavior and integrity in performing his or her duties and who is a role model to others.

Among those who previously have won the award are: John Glenn Jr., Archie Griffin, Jim Tressel, Wayne Embry, Bill Hosket and Jo Ann Davidson, the first woman Speaker of the House in Ohio.

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First, he had to figure  out which gal was in his arms.

Charlie Coles was talking about the night he met Dolores &amp;#8220;Dee Dee&amp;#8221; Jackson and her sister Darla at a dance in Oxford in the early 1960s.

&amp;#8220;I danced with her and next, it turns out, I danced with her sister,&amp;#8221; the Miami University basketball coach was saying. &amp;#8220;I thought there was just one of them &amp;#8216;cause they looked alike. So the next dance I resume my conversation (with Dee Dee) and she didn&amp;#8217;t have a clue what I was talking about&amp;#8230;I thought she was playing a joke.&amp;#8221;

He figured it out and soon the girl in his arms was also in his heart. Because of it, Charlie and Dee Dee &amp;#8212; who&amp;#8217;ll be married 45 years  in October &amp;#8212; will be part of a world-record attempt on the Miami University campus, Saturday, June 20.

As part of the school&amp;#8217;s bicentennial celebration, the Alumni Association is hoping to land a spot in the Guinness Book of World Records for the most couples renewing their wedding vows at one time. The mark was set last year in Pittsburgh with 624.

What is known around the Oxford campus as Miami Mergers (one Miami grad marrying another) and Miami Acquisitions (a grad married to a non-Miamian)  have been invited to meet at the Upham Hall Arch for Saturday&amp;#8217;s 4:15 p.m. ceremony. 

According to campus legend, if you kiss your date at midnight beneath the glowing lantern that hangs in the archway, you will wed.

While Charlie said he and Dee Dee didn&amp;#8217;t do that &amp;#8212; &amp;#8220;I don&amp;#8217;t know where our first kiss was,&amp;#8221; he chuckled &amp;#8212; their family has fully embraced the Miami marriage tradition.

Their two children &amp;#8212; Chris and Mary &amp;#8212; are both taking part Saturday, as is Darla and her husband.  Yet, of all the couples involved, few have a more colorful story than Charlie and Dee Dee.

He was the high scoring guard on the Miami basketball team when they wed his senior season. She was a local girl and Miami product who was part of a singing group &amp;#8212; the Fontones &amp;#8212; who were one of the area&amp;#8217;s hottest &amp;#8220;girl&amp;#8221; groups of the Do Wop era. 

&amp;#8220;When we married, Coach (Dick) Shrider wasn&amp;#8217;t happy,&amp;#8221; Charlie laughed. &amp;#8220;Thank God for Coach (Darrell) Hedrick. He saved me.&amp;#8221;

Charlie and Dee Dee wed on a week night at a Cincinnati-area Baptist church where her uncle was the minister. She wore the bridesmaid dress she&amp;#8217;d worn for Darla&amp;#8217;s wedding the year before. Fellow Miami player Johnny Swain was Charlie&amp;#8217;s best man.

&amp;#8220;We didn&amp;#8217;t have a dime between us,&amp;#8221; Dee Dee once said. &amp;#8220;One of the coaches asked me if I was pregnant and I said, no, I was in love.&amp;#8221;

That love was some of the glue that held them together through the address changes in Charlie&amp;#8217;s coaching career and their major health issues from Dee Dee&amp;#8217;s bouts with cancer to Charlie&amp;#8217;s well-documented heart problems.

&amp;#8220;We made it because we understood each other,&amp;#8221; Charlie said as he began to chuckle. &amp;#8220;I&amp;#8217;ve always said, I could go out any time I wanted. I just had to follow three rules:

&amp;#8220;I couldn&amp;#8217;t dress up. I couldn&amp;#8217;t take any money and&amp;#8230; I had to take the kids along.&amp;#8221;

The kids will be there with him Saturday. So will the two gals who started all this &amp;#8212; the one he danced with&amp;#8230;and the one he married.

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(from left to right) Jeff, Ethan, Sylvia, Lillian, Erik and Barbara

They met for almost two hours at a Panera Bread cafe in the Columbus suburb of Powell, not far from Muirfield Village Golf Club.

There was laughter and there were tears. There was a lot of personal sharing and one major correction.

&amp;#8220;Erik kept referring to &amp;#8216;Isaac&amp;#8217;s heart,&amp;#8217; and finally we said &amp;#8220;No, it&amp;#8217;s your heart now,&amp;#8217;&amp;#8221; Lillian Klosterman said. &amp;#8220;It&amp;#8217;s yours.&amp;#8221;

And that&amp;#8217;s when she said her son Ethan, an incoming freshman at the University of Dayton, brought the point home with a smile:

&amp;#8220;You know  how when you give a gift you don&amp;#8217;t want it back? We don&amp;#8217;t want it back.&amp;#8217;&amp;#8221;

This is the private side of a story that became very public 10 days ago at the final round of the Memorial Tournament.

That Sunday, June 7, my column was about 29-year-old pro golfer Erik Compton of Miami, who was teeing it up that morning with a new heart  &amp;#8212; and with it a whole new and quite wonderful lease on life &amp;#8212;  thanks to University of Dayton grad Isaac Klosterman and his family.

Isaac had been killed in a hit and run accident in Florida a year ago in May. At the same time, Compton was in desperate need of a new heart. Diagnosed with a defective heart as a kid, he had gotten a transplant at age 12 but that heart now had  worn out. He had suffered a heart attack seven months earlier and by May of 2008  his health had deteriorated badly.

When Isaac died in the hospital, Lillian and her husband Jeff &amp;#8212; after a confab with the rest of the family &amp;#8212;  honored their 26-year-old son&amp;#8217;s wishes and donated his organs, tissue and bone, gifts that saved at least five people&amp;#8217;s lives and helped many others.

Compton got the heart, the same one that had powered Isaac to volleyball fame at Chaminade Julienne and the University of Dayton.

Over much of the next year the Klostermans and Compton &amp;#8212; who had married wife, Barbara, and then they added a baby daughter in late February &amp;#8212; didn&amp;#8217;t know each other&amp;#8217;s identity. 

In accordance to transplant foundation rules, they first traded anonymous letters,  but soon &amp;#8212; with some investigative work on both sides  &amp;#8212; they learned who the other was.

They finally exchanged some e-mails right before the Memorial. Both wanted to know each other and they figured this tournament &amp;#8212; which Compton was playing in thanks to an exemption from tournament founder Jack Nicklaus, who fully supports him &amp;#8212; was the chance.

During the early days of the tournament,  I interviewed the Comptons several times in Dublin and Lillian during a break from her job at the University of Dayton. All were curious about each other. Before my story though, the Klosterman&amp;#8217;s identity was unknown to the general public or the media.

Early on the Klostermans had thought of following Compton on Sunday, but then some corporate types with other agendas tried to orchestrate their meeting in a very public way and both shied from that idea. Each worried about the other&amp;#8217;s sensibilities in what they knew would be a very emotional first embrace.

And so they decided to meet after Compton finished his final round. Impressive early in the tournament, he didn&amp;#8217;t play well on Sunday, shot an 81, and tied Rocco Mediate for 76th place, good for an $11,340 check.

He arrived at Panera with Barbara and Hank Amundson, his best friend and caddy. Along with Ethan, the Klostermans brought along daughter Sylvia, a CJ junior.

&amp;#8220;Erik said, &amp;#8216;I didn&amp;#8217;t play very well,&amp;#8217; and I told him, &amp;#8216;Well, you made it farther than Vijay Singh,&amp;#8217; Lillian said, referring to the winner of three of golf&amp;#8217;s major tournaments and last year&amp;#8217;s top money man on the PGA Tour. &amp;#8220;That made him laugh.&amp;#8221;

Lillian said they thought that maybe now since their identity is out  and it&amp;#8217;s not such a mystery, &amp;#8220;maybe he&amp;#8217;ll be treated more normally and not just as the heart guy&amp;#8230; But even so, it&amp;#8217;s still a remarkable story. He was ready to go to heaven.&amp;#8221;

Compton is making the most of Isaac&amp;#8217;s gift and Lillian could see it:

&amp;#8220;You could feel the love. Erik and Barbara are the perfect match for our family. He wasn&amp;#8217;t big headed or snooty. He was so down to earth, so kind and appreciative. He far exceeded our expectations.&amp;#8221;

Before they parted, Lillian gave Compton  a copy of Isaac&amp;#8217;s favorite book. &amp;#8220;My Side of the Mountain.&amp;#8221;

In turn, he gave them something.

&amp;#8220;It was so nice to finally put a face to the name,&amp;#8221; Lillian said. &amp;#8220;I had kind of known it already, but after meeting him, now I&amp;#8217;m sure of it: Isaac&amp;#8217;s heart could not have gone to a better person.&amp;#8221;

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