The list goes for three pages. Has everything from plates to sheets to new trash can for the kitchen. Any of us who has done this will instantly recognize what kind of list it’s for: setting up a new home for the first time. Only this isn’t a list belonging to some young couple. No, it belongs to the guy we call “Buford.”
“Bu” is the guy who pushes all the buttons and does all the technical stuff to get my radio show on air. He’s also a 20-something guy who’s getting his first apartment.
“It’s overwhelming,” he sighed the other day.
Indeed, it’s possible that one of the biggest obstacles single people face is setting up their own home for the first time. As I looked over that list, it reminded me yet again of something I’ve long believed: It’s possible we need to update the way we celebrate.
Why don’t we throw showers for single people when they are setting up their first home?
I tried a twist on this idea a few years ago. A girlfriend was ready to break free of the boyfriend she’d been living with. She didn’t have a spoon to her name.
“Let me throw you an independence shower,” I offered.
She looked at me like I was nuts. “A shower?” she said. “Why would anyone want to celebrate me?”
“You think you’re a failure because this relationship is over,” I explained. “But your friends see a woman who got the courage up to leave a bad situation and start new.”
And so we gathered for lunch. Everyone brought a gift card so she could pick out her own housewares.
How can you throw out the old celebration rules? It’s possible it’ll be the best party you’ve ever thrown.
Daryn Kagan is the creator of DarynKagan.com. She is the author of “What’s Possible! 50 True Stories of People Who Dared To Dream They Could Make a Difference.”