Grandmothers play music at granddaughter’s wedding

KETTERING — Wedding planning is a busy, stressful time, but for one local family the process brought them closer.

Lucy Febus and Scott Jacobs married Oct. 13 at the Church of the Incarnation, 55 Williamsburg Lane, in Centerville. Febus, now Lucy Jacobs, asked her grandmothers to perform during the wedding ceremony.

Betty Vallo, 80, is Jacobs’ maternal grandmother and Jan Febus, 87, is Jacobs’ paternal grandmother.

Vallo and husband Myrle live in Kettering, and Febus and husband Gene live in Medina.

Vallo played a piano duet with Febus, a violinist. The pair performed Pachelbel’s Cannon in D as the bride and groom’s parents walked down the aisle and the mothers lit the unity candle.

Working together from afar

“It was my daughter’s idea,” Vallo said. “I think it’s unusual. It’s a nice way to celebrate for our granddaughter. I was excited and honored.”

The grandmothers practiced individually.

“I chose the music and mailed it to her,” Vallo said. “We picked out our tempo over Skype.”

Vallo was a teacher at Yamaha Music School for 20 years and she volunteers at nursing homes playing music from the 1930s and 1940s.

Febus graduated as a music major in 1947 from Millikin University in Decatur, Ill. She taught the violin privately and she was concert mistress of the Medina County Orchestra for 30 years.

“I haven’t played for years. I had to dust it from under the bed and work on it,” Febus said. “I was a little nervous, but Betty is such a delight to work with and I love her.”

The bride and groom were happy to incorporate family into the wedding.

“This has brought my grandmothers closer,” Jacobs said. “It’s a fun way for the two of them to bond. My grandmother (Jan Febus) thought she retired 30 years ago. I asked her to play at the wedding and she couldn’t find her violin.”

Joyful music

Music is a family affair as Jacobs studied under Vallo for five years as a child. Jacobs was primarily a vocalist.

“I started doing piano and singing,” Jacobs said. “All of the cousins that lived in the area did it together, and it was a lot of fun.”

Lucy Jacobs teaches special education and Scott Jacobs is an education specialist.

The pair, who lives in Dublin, donated their first dance to their parents and grandparents.

“I was so excited to have them play together,” Lucy Jacobs said. “It set a wonderful tone for the wedding. It means a lot to me. I heard them practice and every single time it brings tears to my eyes.”

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