This makes sense. Teens do unto others as what was done to them. Based on this research, it may be possible to identify and help these kids before they hurt their dating partners. It was difficult to watch mom’s physical and verbal abuse of Tonya when she was a little girl. Her mother disputes the accuracy of these accounts.
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The more we know about the abusive backgrounds of kids, the easier it is to understand and even predict how their lives will evolve. Doesn’t it make more sense to intervene early and aggressively help these kids, rather than wait for the inevitable problems these kids will experience?
Please add “teen dating violence prevention” to the list of topics you discuss with your adolescent. Here are the key messages.
• Violence happens. While not common, sexual and physical violence against both boys and girls does occur. It is most likely to happen from kids raised in abusive homes.
• Zero tolerance. Immediately break up with any partner whose unwanted behavior persists. Send a clear message that it is never acceptable. Don't make excuses or blame yourself for their bad behavior.
• Look for warning signs. These offensive behaviors often start with verbal aggression or manipulation and escalate if allowed to continue.
• Don't live in a fantasy world. Get over the illusion that you are powerful enough to change someone's behavior. Break up with anyone who is abusive and report any crime immediately to someone you trust.
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