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My friend and mentor, Jim Fay, once told me "When you do the right thing with a strong-willed kid, it often feels like the wrong thing." Just because your kid is crying doesn't mean you did anything wrong. In fact, when you do the right thing with a dramatic and strong-willed 6-year- old, it should usually end with her crying!
But some might say, “Maybe she is in emotional distress or has an emotional problem.” My answer is that it just doesn’t matter.
First, who says children should never be in emotional distress? Where is that written? When kids are in distress we should empathize, just as you did, and leave the child to solve any problem that it is possible for them to solve. If she is in emotional distress about eating a bagel, I suppose she is going to pull up her big-girl pants and deal with it. Doing exactly what you have been doing tells your kid that you love them, and that you know they can solve their own problems.
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Secondly, even in the unlikely event that your daughter has a clinical emotional problem, you still don’t want to doubly disable her by, at that moment of the tantrum, showing her that her tantrum about breakfast offerings is your problem. This will still reinforce the negative behavior, making everyone’s life worse. None of this will stop you from talking to her about feelings (as you did) or even talking to a counselor or psychologist (not that it seems necessary in this case).
You can either teach her that being dramatic and throwing a fit doesn’t get her what she wants, or she will eventually try these behaviors on a series of boyfriends. As someone who dated a lot of women whose mothers, I suspect, never taught them this lesson, please stick to your guns! Just keep being sad, lay on the empathy, and keep training her that she can be around people for as long as she can be pleasant. Good work!